There is just one life for each of us: our own. ~Euripides

Yes…only one life….that is all we are allowed….all we are given to make use of ….

….ours to use in what ever way we want….

There are no reruns….no chances to do it over again…to do it better or different…THIS IS IT !!!

You must have control of the authorship of your own destiny.  The pen that writes your life story must be held in your own hand.  ~Irene C. Kassorla

Are you holding the pen that is writing your story…your life???….Are you in control of your own destiny???….As the hours tick..tick…tick …away….hours that belong to only you…are you happy in how they are passing????

I must admit…until breast cancer became a part of my life….I don’t think I really thought about it too much…My life was so busy I never had time to stop and reflect…to really think about it….But when your life is in jeopardy…when you are not sure if you have much of  it left to live…there comes a strange awakening…an Epiphany of sorts…. which made me suddenly  feel my time was more important than ever before…and…there came a feeling of ownership of the future hours left in my life….I now felt that ..as long as I did not impose on …or negatively affect anyone else….I was going to  spend my time as I really wanted….without feeling guilty….If I wanted to watch TV for hours???…why not…after all …it is my time to spend !!…or…like now…kayaking…if I want to be …out on the lake every morning….and spend my hours that way…I will.

It has  taught me how important  time is….it has also taught me that….my time is no more important than yours…and vise versa….I believe that our minutes are  precious….they are ours to use as we wish….To  waste another person’s time… is a travesty …a crime….Each of our life’s time is limited…and…we cannot retrieve it once it is gone….we can only use it…enjoy it…No one should be allowed to steal any of it from us.

I think of life itself now as a wonderful play that I’ve written for myself,

and so my purpose is to have the utmost fun playing my part. 

~Shirley MacLaine

What kind of play have your written for yourself …so far????

 

 

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“If you can’t change your fate, change your attitude.” — Amy Tan

Before writing another word…I want to define FATE……

• the power  supposed to determine the outcome of events before they occur; destiny…something inevitable…what happens or has happened to a person or entity…final outcome…The supposed force, principle, or power that predetermined events.…The inevitable events predestined by this force….A final result or consequence; an outcome.

How often does life go in a certain direction and we  chalk it up to fate???….We take on the belief that…there was nothing we could have done to change the outcome….Some might even call it God’s will…or…luck ….Don’t we all…have times when we…feel we have no control over our life???…Is it possible to change our attitude???…Have you ever decided to …for example .. look at an event in your  life…and instead of seeing the negative… focus instead…on the positive and in so doing …your thinking about it changed??…How much of our day is ruled  by fate and how much by attitude???

So this all got me thinking….if we can’t change our  fate…and we have not been happy about how things have gone….we might try…changing  our  attitude….But …don’t you think that changing our attitude…might possibly….change our  “FATE”????…If we change the way we look at  and react to life….will our life…possibly change as well???

So for example…if we are in a car accident and our fender gets mangled…..we can  get mad and upset…or…have a different…attitude …that of being grateful that we were not hurt…Our attitude will not change the look of the dented fender…however…it could change how we feel …for the hours that follow…so…isn’t  attitude changing …fate changing as well???…

Could it be that we call it fate…when  we just don’t have the energy…to think differently??… Could it be that we say it was ….inevitable…because we did not know what else we could do ….to change things???…or…Could it be that we  just like  to call it fate…because we  just don’t want to take any responsibility…for…our  life’s path??

Fate…do you control it …or…. does it control you???

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“Every time we start thinking we’re the center of the universe, the universe turns around and says with a slightly distracted air, “I’m sorry. What’d you say your name was again?”” Margaret Maron

At twenty we worry about what others think of us;

At forty we don’t care about what others think of us;

At sixty we discover they haven’t been thinking about us at all.

– Author Unknown

Hmm…the center of the universe…for sure we are all …the center of our own universe…but…. THE UNIVERSE???

I bet we can all remember…when we  were younger…and worrying…worrying about what others thought of us…We worried about our clothes, our hair, our cars…and more…Did we fit in??…And no matter how hard we tried…we would always worry…Funny though…Do you ever remember worrying  in that way about  others??…..I  sure don’t….so why is it that…we assumed they/others… would think  about us????…

Doesn’t it stand to reason that …during those years…as everyone is worried about …what the other person is thinking of them…the other person is worried about what others are thinking of them too???…and so…it would make sense to assume that…no one is thinking about anyone but themselves!!!..Interesting that it takes us so many years to figure that one out…to realize that …no…the universe does not revolve around us.

For sure we will all experience times of success…or times of great excitement……a time when we may have a lapse of reality…a moment of regression…when we feel we are the center of the universe…. But…as the years go by…we know …we aren’t and  we never were.

 

 

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Let no one ever come to you… without leaving happier… Mother Teresa

Making people happier…Have you ever wondered …have I made anyone’s life  happier today???

Being happy is a place we all want to be…a place we want our children to be…a place that we can…at times…find difficult to attain…But have you ever considered  this???…Do we have the ability to make someone else s life  happier ???….Do we have the power to give to others what we are seeking for ourselves???… and…if that is so…did we make someone happier today???

Now…I am fully aware that other people cannot make our lives…happy ones…I  believe that  happiness comes from within…However…if when we are with someone…and… if we have the ability to make that person  happier/feel better…do we???…Do we make them smile…or…not???…Are we supportive…or..not???…Are we enjoyable to be with…or…not???…

Think about it for a minute…Who are the people we like to be with…Who are the ones that make us leave happier???…Is it the sad, the grumpy, the stressed, the mad, the pessimists , the talkers, the needy, the energy zappers,  the eye rollers, the know it alls???…or…Is it the happy, the calm, the energy sharers, the positive, the supportive, the  listeners, the smilers, the ones with good eye contact???..

 

So that got me thinking about me…and…how do people who meet me feel after leaving???…Does anyone ever feel happier???…Have I done anything to make someone’s day better???…Will I ever really know???…How about you???

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Begin doing what you want to do now. We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand – and melting like a snowflake. Marie Beyon Ray

Moments … sparkling stars in our hands – that melt like a snowflake.

I believe we all have things …we would like to begin doing…now…but don’t…Things that we believe would add to our lives…however…we never take the time to do them…or make the changes to be able to do them…Can it be that life is easier if…we just keep doing what we are used to doing…and ..never begin doing what we really want to do???

A few months ago…I got thinking about just that ….what  is it that I want to do…I got thinking about sparkling moments…my sparkling moments….and….have I had any lately???…I began wondering ….Am I doing what I really want to do….NOW?????….Like many of you….I have been doing what I have to do…doing what others what me to do…what I need to do…for so long….I was forgetting to pay  attention to ….what is it that I want to do???

I suppose …there can be things we want to do… but we are just are not ready to embrace them… not ready to try  something new …even though we really want to… maybe we are afraid to do …that something  we really want to do???…Maybe there are things we want to do now…but don’t know how to get there…don’t know how to take the step.

I finally did it…I embraced something new…I have begun doing something I WANT TO DO….NOW!!!….I have added a sparkling moment to my life….What is it you might be wondering???….Well…For me ….it is …The Eiderdown….my  new red and yellow and orange …40 pound kayak….yes…I went and bought  a kayak this week….It has turned out to be …exactly what “I want to do now“….I will admit…It was a bit intimidating at first thought…and it meant separating me from some of my money….however…I have been feeling the need for something new….for something that was all mine…for something challenging I could do all on my own…independently….whenever I wanted …or needed to…Who would have thought.???…A kayak…yes a kayak of all things.

It is pretty difficult to describe the feeling of moving through the water…the feeling of complete control of your body and the water surrounding you…alone in the quiet of nature…The being able  to get the kayak into and out of the truck…and …down to the water…with absolutely no assistance…to tie it down securely for travel…with only minor bumps and bruises…is exhilarating…It is an accomplishment…one that I was determined to do…but one that I even surprised myself in being able to…

Had a good friend not mentioned kayaks to me. some months ago..I am not sure I would have ever found this special something…I want to do NOW!!…My first time sitting in and paddling my kayak…I truly can tell you….was a sparkling moment in my life…Melt like a snowflake???…Not for some time I am certain.

How about you…what is it that you want to do NOW???…Don’t let those sparkling stars…melt away!!!

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It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are. ~e.e. cummings

How does a person know…if …when….they have become who they really are???

Do you ever sit and wonder about…who you really are …and if …who you are is who you really want to be???…Do you ever think about things you might like to do…but don’t…or…ways you would like to act…but don’t???

  I wonder about just that some days…I know there are things I would like to do…and ways I would like to be…and every once in a while…I find that I am able to step outside of my box…outside of my present comfort zone…I  take a step beyond who I now am…a step beyond what my life has been…and…in doing so… I do believe…it brings me closer to who I really want to be.

My will… shall shape the future….

Whether I fail or succeed…

shall be no man’s doing but my own….

I am the force. …

I can clear any obstacle before me …

or I can be lost in the maze. …

My choices are  my responsibilities. …

Win or lose…

only I hold the key to my destiny……

by Elaine Maxwell

 

So…will this lead me in the direction of ….becoming  more …the person I really am???….I have no idea…but one thing is for sure… I will continue …to do things…with my aim being…to become the more real me!!!

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Whenever you fall, pick something up. ~Oswald Avery

It is these little quotes that I like the best….

I think it is because they say so much…in saying so little.

Now how simple is that…fall and pick something up!!!….Yes, isn’t that true???…Isn’t it the times we fall…fail or have difficulty…that are the times we pick something up…the times we learn something…or at least we should…right???…

It seems that through our weeks and months …there are many many times that are difficult…or that we fail…that would give us zillions of opportunities in our lives to learn…to pick something up…right???… But do we???….Do we really learn as much as we could???…Do we see all the learning opportunities that come our way…day after day???

Can it be that on some days we are just sleeping …not alert to what learning possibilities are before us???…or…Maybe we are so caught up in our problems that we can’t look past them to learn from them…Can it be that we don’t want to learn …or… that we feel…we don’t need to learn??

I try to put myself into unusual and difficult situations as often as I can in order to capture the element of struggle in the music.     Neil Finn 

That makes me wonder…If  a person could take all the difficult times…one by one…and look at each in such a way as to learn from them…is it possible that difficult times… may not be so difficult after all??…If a person anticipated learning from every negative experience…is it possible that a person would see such times…in a more positive light??

Can a person become more positive about the negatives????

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We are never prepared for what we expect. ~James A. Michener

Is it true… that we are never ready…never prepared???….Surely we can’t always be prepared for the unexpected…but…what about the expected???…Is it that the expected…is never really what we expected at all???

I wonder…If we can’t be prepared…no matter how much we plan …is being prepared… or…at least…trying to be prepared…the right thing to do???…Should a person spend time preparing for the expected when  often ..the unexpected occurs???

I… for one have often  found myself…thinking… I know what to expect…and finding out… it was not quite what I expected…I am sure many of you have been in that same place a few or more times in your lives…and…when we find ourselves in that place…we wonder… how did we overlook those unexpected things.???..How did we …not… know what to expect???…We were so prepared..or…were we???.

It got me wondering about dealing with the unexpected …that…often arrives with the expected…I suppose the unexpected …should be expected…right??? …And if that is so…then yes…the unexpected…actually becomes the expected !!!…I got thinking about dealing with those things we had not planned on…It is easy to deal with those things we can prepare ourselves for…but how about those we have not???…Can a person… prepare for the expected…unexpected events..moments..times..situations..details in our days???

I got wondering about how well I handle the unexpected…how effective have I been in dealing with it???…These moments can cause us stress we had not counted on…can cause our emotions to erupt…so I suppose HOW we handle them …will be the deciding factor in…how well we get through our days…Like driving a car…if your equipment is in order…if it has been serviced regularly…if it has a full fuel tank.. it is as best prepared as it can be…right???….However….once it is on the road….if the driver is prepared or not…will be the deciding factor in…how it gets through it’s travels…how a driver handles the …curves and bumps along the way…There are all levels of driving skills… on the road…just as there are all levels of preparedness… in life.

Can anyone … ever really be prepared…. for what they expect???

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Every decision is the right decision. Unknown

Every decision is the right decision. 

I was talking with my daughter on the phone the other day…and she told me of a dilemma she was having…She had to make a decision …a choice…and she was not sure if she was making the right one… and for some reason I responded to her saying..“are there really any  wrong decisions”???

Isn’t it true that …at that moment…the moment  we make a decision…we have no way of knowing… if or how… a different decision could have turned out???…Sure we can speculate…and yes we can wonder…but can we ever really know??…And so…if we have no way of judging a possible different outcome from a different decision…wouldn’t it hold true that…our decision must be the right decision??

Now I am sure someone out there is not agreeing at all…but think for just a minute…Don’t you think that no matter who you are…no matter what kind of life you are living…and no matter how much knowledge you have…as an adult… faced with having to make a decision…you…we all… make the one that is right for us at that moment…the best one possible ???…..So keeping that in mind…I suppose it is possible …that if we are making the very best decisions we can …at the time we are faced with them…..YES…. every decision must be  the right one!!!.

All my life whenever it comes time to make a decision, I make it and forget about it .   Harry S. Truman

Could it be that …a decision is the right one…if we…believe it is the right one?”??…And if we believe it is the right one…if we accept it as the right one…isn’t it exactly that???…So then…if a person is always doubting their decisions..if a person is always thinking they could or should  have made a better one…a different one…if a person is always looking back and wishing…rather than looking ahead and living…aren’t  all of their decisions …the right decisions as well…the only difference is …they haven’t stopped to realize it???…

So it was a hard decision but I know it is the right one Graeme Le Saux

Have you ever thought about how many decisions…one person  is required to make each day???…Ever think  about  how much time  one  person can spend in a day…in…the decision making process???…That has me wondering…are there decisions through out a day …that we spend way too much time on???…Certainly there are those that require time…a bit of research and fact finding prior to a final decision…but…what about those such as … which clothes to wear or which cereal to have for breakfast…or what time to go to bed???…

If our decisions are the right ones…we need not look back…we need not have  regrets…for we know we did our  best.  SGU

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An Easter What ????

  Have a wonderful Easter Weekend!!

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“One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure its worth watching.” Unknown

Yes…there may come a day when our life will flash before our eyes…would ours be worth watching???

Have you ever had a moment … a moment when something caused your life to flash before you???…a moment when something  caused you to take a serious look at the years that have passed. ..how you have  spent them..something that made you wonder about the years to come and how you will spend them???…If your life flashed before you today…can you say…Yes…it was worth watching or do you think you would want to change the channel ???

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we had the ability to look back…and change the channel if we did not like what flashed before us???

Well…we all know that is not possible…what is past is past…However .. if our life has not been worth watching…or if our life could be a better watch…do we have the capacity to change that???…Can a person make their life…a …more worth while watch??…In the hustle and bustle of our daily routine…can a person make changes  to  their own channel???…Can we work to change  the inevitable “life flashing  before our eyes” so we will be happy with the channel our life has been on???

That got me wondering…Is it possible in looking back…  that what we see flash before our eyes …is in part …reality combined with our  perceived reality???…Is it possible that the life that might flash before us…is a mixture of…people and events and behaviors…that we have come to believe as our life…but may not have actually occurred as we remember???….Can there be memories of our lives…that  have been manufactured by others…or…redesigned by ourselves to suit our needs and attitudes ???

Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.  Albert Einstein

I wonder about this …as there are days I pick up an old journal I have written …and…I read and find to my surprise that…what I wrote about an event or feeling or behavior of a certain day…is very different from what I… now remember it to have been….In some cases it may have been only a few years and still…my memory has …over time… become distorted…So now I wonder about… if my life flashes before me one day…will it be my real life or my life distorted by time and the tricks my memory might have played.

So now I wonder…How  much of my life …that I remember to be my life…really is???…How much is a distortion of it???…When my life flashes before me one day…will I truly be watching my channel or might it be a bad connection somewhere…causing distortion???…

Only in quiet waters do things mirror themselves undistorted.

Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world.

Hans Margolius

Think about it….How quiet are  your waters ???…How distorted are your  perceptions???

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“Life only demands from you the strength you possess.”- Dag Hammarskjold

Is it true that life will only demand  from you…the strength you possess???

How interesting to think about…Does that mean that life…in some cosmic way…knows what to throw at each of us… according to our strength???….or… does it mean that no matter what life asks of you…no matter how difficult it might be….you do have the strength to handle it???

Is it possible that we all have the resiliency and strength to rise to the occasion…any occasion… if required???… Can it be that we have absolutely no idea of our strength…until the day/s come that it is needed???…Do you think it is possible to surprise…even ourselves…of the strength we all have???

I remember talking to my brother after being diagnosed with cancer. We are a family of four siblings…he being the youngest….and I remember his words to me…in all kindness he said….” Out of the four of us…if anyone were to receive such news…it’s a good thing it is you as …you are the strongest”.  My immediate thought was…well…if that is true…I sure wish I weren’t so strong…and… then was  is my doctor…in asking him how difficult was the next year going to be?…and he said…”Well, how strong are you?…I must admit…I wasn’t really sure!!!

“It is worth remembering that the time of greatest gain in terms of wisdom and inner strength is often that of greatest difficulty

So if going through times of great difficulty…provides wisdom and inner strength…does that mean those who have to deal with lots of difficulty are wiser and stronger than others???…

So my question  is….I wonder how strong/resilient I really am…what about you?… Do you think we really know our own strength..our ability to be resilient?…Is it only by adversity that we find out…what we are capable of…how well we are  able to rise to each occasion as it appears???…

If it is true  that If  life demands from us the strength we possess…wouldn’t it hold true that  …we have the strength to handle ANY and ALL the demands we that come our way???…That is very comforting in a strange way…don’t you agree??

“The moments of happiness we enjoy take us by surprise. It is not that we seize them, but that they seize us.” Ashley Montagu

You have probably heard the phrase..Seize the day….however…Can you think of a moment of happiness …that took you by surprise???….A  moment of surprise that you can actually say…seized you???

Tonight I had exactly a moment like that…I was surprised…over come….seized by the moment!!!  Our book club meeting was at my home this evening…The Happiness Project was the book we talked about…and in that chat I had mentioned that…something I would love to do is… to fly a kite!…The evening carried on…good wine…great food..and a few hours later…once the evening was just about over… and everyone began  packing up…one friend said she had a little something for me…Hmm…this was strange…and very interesting…why only for me I wondered…what ever could it be???

She ran out to her car….and…a few minutes later she returned to the  house with a bag in hand….She told us said she had done some house cleaning…and…had a few items in her car to bring to the thrift shop…however…she decided  this one item would be best if  given to me…We were all still wondering…what might it be…and then she told us…

A kite….It was a kite…she was giving me a KITE!!!

Now…is that synchronicity…serendipity…coincidence…karma…or what????…

I think we all were in awe of the event for a moment…and  I…I was so thrilled that …without even thinking …I gave her a big hug…and then we all laughed…Yes I was seized by that moment…how could I not have been????…Here we were …talking about happiness…and my evening ended with me surprised and thoroughly taken/seized by an unexpected  moment of happiness!!

So what about you???…any such moments of late??…Have you ever been the person to give  such a moment to someone else???… …Have you been the receiver of such a moment of surprise???

That has me wondering if…Is it possible for each and every one of us ….to make such moments occur…or…are such moments completely out of our hands???…Do we each have the capacity to be able to make happy moments for others???

Once the weather cooperates…you will find me out in a field….flying my newly acquired, gently used, kite!!!

Thanks to (V)…for providing us all with a moment of happiness.

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Internet radio.

I have been invited to take part in an internet radio series about resilience.

I suppose my next post should be about just that…resilience!!

Listening is the only way to entertain some folks. Kin Hubbard

We have all entertained  others  in lots of different ways…which usually involves a bit of effort on  our part…like making a dinner…or…having a party…or…telling a joke…or relating a story….but…entertain by just listening???

Think about it…there are people who like to entertain sometimes…and there are people who enjoy being entertained…sometimes…and we have all met the people who seem to entertain …all the time???…I am not talking about paid entertainers…but rather…family members…or…friends…or acquaintances who talk…talk…talk…Those people who talk all the time and never stop.

I wonder…could it be that they have so much bottled up… that when in the company of others…they just have to share???….Could it be that they dread those moments of silence that might occur if they stop talking???….or…Maybe they enjoy having a constant audience …maybe they get some kind of positive reinforcement from it….Hmmm…one might say that they seem very self absorbed…but…could it be that they have no idea what they are doing?????..If someone were to tell them….you monopolize conversations… you never let anyone else talk…do you think they would be horrified??

Could it be …the only way to entertain such folk …is to listen to them…or…at least seem to listen???…Have you ever spent time with someone like that…only to come home and realize…they never asked you one question???…That although they have told you tons about themselves…they have learned nothing about you…

Many years ago I had a good friend…we used to sit for hours chatting…till one day I actually listened…What I realized is that we were having two very separate conversations ..we were each just waiting for the other to stop talking…to then get our words in…neither of us really ever heard the other… yet to an outsider it would have looked like a normal conversation taking place…It was then I had to say something to her….and I told her what I just realized…we were not having a conversation at all…we were having two!!!…Interesting how after that…our chats totally changed…We had no idea we had gotten into such a habit and it never happened again.

Oh no…what about me???….I don’t think I monopolize conversations…do I???….Although  I will admit …I do like to talk??…Yes..and  I do occasionally interrupt others when talking…but I am working on that…Could it be that listening is the only way to entertain me????…Hmmm…I suppose knowing that to be a possibility…is the first step to improvement.

Have you ever considered ..is your entertainment …others listening to you????

Thanks a bunch!!!

Quick post today….just want to thank you all for stopping in for a visit and commenting on my posts. I would have         to spend days responding to each one individually… so…I decided to say thank you this way. My blog is now over one year old and I will continue to post new and interesting information and photos.

Thanks a bunch!!!!

 

 

 

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. – Buddha

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; however you are the one who gets burned.

- Buddha

Anger…who of us has never been angry??…Is it true that holding on to that anger …can  cause pain and possibly leave scars??…So I got  to wondering about anger and pain….If this is true then…does  that mean… the angrier a person is the more pain they will inflict upon themselves and the worse the scars will be???

When a person looks at anger as a hot coal…it makes one wonder…why would a person ever want to be angry???…Why would a person want to cause themselves pain…pain that they do not …HAVE…to endure???

But …you are now saying to yourself…but how does a person not get angry??…We all get angry at times…right???…And we all have times that someone or something just riles us up…I bet we have all had times when we were holding onto that hot coal of anger …with intentions of tossing it at someone…and before we even could…the coal/anger had already burned us.

Think about it…what if a person was angry for a very long time???…Would that mean that the pain would last for much longer as well??…And if that is so…wouldn’t it make sense to drop the hot coal…the anger…as soon as possible???…Wouldn’t  it be smart to …not even pick up the hot coal to begin with???….Would anyone …knowingly …consider doing such a thing??

So…you have to wonder…why do we allow ourselves to become angry???….Can anything good …actually come out of such emotions…reactions??…I am sure we have all known at least one person….who seems to be  angry ??…people who are carrying hot coals around with them…all the time… I wonder if they have any idea how that is affecting them…Could it be that the longer a person carries around a hot coal…he begins not to even feel it anymore???…I would hate to think that anyone would actually enjoy holding a hot coal…would they????

Now…this all has me wondering about anger and me…am I carrying any hot coals around at the moment???…And if so…How long have I been carrying them around with me???…I  have some serious thinking to do…and probably a few coals that need to be  dropped…I will think about this next time I feel anger building up…and next time I hope I can be smart enough to ….not  even pick up the  that hot coal…Maybe  the picture  at the start of my post will be a good visual reminder.

What about you….are you lugging around any hot coals ??? Coals you might be wanting to drop??

I once read that when you feel anger beginning to build up…just even for a few seconds…mentally…find and go to your happy place…it might just help let the anger disappear…. POOF!!!..It is worth a try.

 

Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

I found this quote and it made me smile…

mostly because…

even in it’s shortness… it says so much.

be kind whenever possible…it is always possible

This simple little statement made me wonder … it sounds so simple…BE KIND…yet in practice…it is not…However…for  us to be kind…it does not cost us anything…it does not hurt us…it doesn’t take much of our time…and….we all know how to do it…so why then… is it so difficult???

I would guess that we can all very easily…think of a time  when someone …was  NOT kind to us…when someone said or did something that hurt…that made us feel bad…or….how about the times when…we have done that to others…when we have not been kind.

Why if being kind… is such an easy thing to do….do people choose NOT TO  BE..?

I would like to believe that …we all want to be kind…we all do our best to be …as kind as we can be…so why are there times we are not??… Could it be that we don’t really think about it?? …Could it be that we don’t realize our unkindness??…Could  it be that we are in such a rush to get on with our lives….that we sometimes…forget about those around us??…Maybe it is that we are just too tired to even consider it some days…being kind.

I think you would agree that. ..people love it when  someone is kind to them…..and that…it sure make us feel good when we are kind to someone… so why then… why wouldn’t we all want to be kinder to each other …more often???…Do we not like feeling good???….Is it that other things and emotions ….get in our way and make being kind … more difficult than it should be?

Sure we all partake in those special little acts of kindness…those good Samaritan acts… But what about our everyday actions??…How kind conscious are we with them???…How kind conscious are we to our kids…our husbands….the people we see everyday??…How kind are we from minute to minute???…Is it possible to be kinder…or not???…If there were a seminar on learning to be kind….how many of us would consider taking part?.

How kind do you want to be???… Think about it.

Be kind whenever possible…it is always possible

isn’t it???

Can’t vote???

Quick post…there seems to be a problem with the Covey Book Cover Contest site…no one has been able to vote..sit tight and I will let you know if/when it is up and working.  Thanks

I need your help..vote ..vote…for my book cover here…

My book Sam’s Weird Afternoon is presently in …

The New Covey Book Cover Award….contest.

Kurt Jones  of  Tate Publishing…was the brilliant illustrator  I worked with ..to develop Sam and the cover of Sam’s Weird Afternoon….. I was so very happy when we finalized what Sam would look like…and the cover came out better than I expected…I think it is very colorful and  eye catching…I hope you do too!

My  hope is that with enough votes from all of you ….my book cover might just be a winner for April !!!

Just click on the link below …go to entry # 14…and vote.

http://thenewcoveycoverawards.blogspot.com/

Voting will take place from April 1- 15th.

Sam…Kurt and I….thank you all in advance for your support and I will let you know what the results are after the 15th.

Thanks to all of you who voted …Sally and I are very excited about this…..Sam