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How many heartbeats does one person have in a lifetime??

An old friend from years past got me thinking about this…heartbeats…how many have I used and how many do I have left…and how exactly will I spend them?

So…let’s say I live to be 75 (average life expectancy) …that gives me 15 more years of heartbeats at a rate 72  of beats a minute…to use…I am not going to bore you with the math.

Hmmm….it seems I have used up a good percentage of MY available heartbeats…so I had better not waste what may be remaining.

I also got wondering…how did  I spent all those past heartbeats ?

AND  SO….

Some years ago I spend numerous heartbeats … writing children’s stories/poems.  Last week when cleaning out a space in my home, I found a binder with all the creations I had long since forgotten about. In thinking about heartbeats…I thought I would share some of them here on this blog …I suppose in doing this…

 This is a way of sharing my present and past heartbeats with all of you.??

Sam…Don’t

My mom will always tell me

“No, no, you shouldn’t, don’t

I find that quite confusing

Cause normally I won’t

But when she says “don’t do that !!!”

Whatever that might be

She makes me think about it

I get confused…you see???

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When mom says please don’t do that

the first thing that I think

I really want to try that

Before I can even blink

Like when she says “don’t eat that”

before she has a clue

that thing if right inside my mouth

And I begin to chew

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When in the tub… mom always says

“Don’t splash and please no bubbles”

But splashing makes the bath such fun

Which always causes trouble

Why does mom say “Don’t touch that” ??

Cause it makes me want to try

And so I touch it quickly

And then she wonders why??

On days when it is rainy

with big  puddles on my street

Why does she yell  “No splashing Sam”

Then… I can’t control my feet

And when I crawl in bed at night

Mom says  ” Don’t suck your thumb”

But that just makes me want to

Isn’t that just  dumb?

Mom gives me straws to drink my milk

Then says “No blowing bubbles”

If she would just not say such things

I’d cause her fewer troubles

My mother always tells me

She wants me to be good

If she didn’t give such fun ideas

I’d behave…I know I could.

Written by…ME…

Sally Unrau … May 23, 2006

Thanks for sharing my heartbeats today….I hope you enjoyed the first of many kids stories.

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We have all hear people talking about ….waiting for their ship to come in…and maybe at times…we have wished that ours would come in as well.

Let’s think about it…a ship… is a large boat . ..that I for one… have never seen resting on a shore.

You may be thinking…but cruise ships come in to shore?  right?….Not really.  They come in to docks..(.not the shore)…. docks that have been specially built for them.

So I suppose that means …if you sit on shore and wait for it…you might be sitting there a very long time…unless there is a natural disaster that forces it to crash on the shore…

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Your ship  might come in but it will be damaged and broken …not exactly what you had in mind.

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So I suppose.. if your ship doesn’t come in… swimming out to it would be in order…..Don’t know how to swim??…and the thought of learning to is frightening? ….you may have to just start building that long dock.

 

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So… if sitting and watching…doesn’t bring in your ship….and you can’t swim or build…

you might have to reconsider the ship idea…

and settle for something a little smaller.

I go to nature to be soothed and healed, and to have my senses put in order.
John Burroughs

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I have spent hours on our lake waters the past three years…and each year I am amazed by the changes of the landscape and the wildlife that find a home within.  However…. …Where are all the ducks, geese, small wading birds and muskrat???   Why would there be many one year and almost none  the next???

The only thing that comes to mind is the differing water levels each year.  This year the lake water were extremely high…and moving too fast….could that be the reason???

Was there no place for nesting to take place??   I miss  watching the young grow up…and looking forward to finding them each time I  visit the lake.

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 However…the  Turtles…the beautiful painted turtles seem to be a constant in the landscape…everyday around 10 am.

I love to float beside them …near the reeds…as they  hug a piece of driftwood and raise the heads toward the sun in unison, is always a special moment.

thCAXRF6AP For everything you have missed, you have gained something else, and for  everything you gain, you lose something else.

Ralph  Waldo Emerson

Yes…I am missing something this summer…. the creatures …however…I have  spent more time observing the trees and the plants as they grow and change during the summer…more than ever before.  I have observed the changing of the shores…how the rain , sun and wind affect the growth, in and around the waters edge… how the water surface explodes some days with new growth…and how it can  visually change from being glasslike in one spot yet  choppy with waves in another.

Ahhhh…change.  Mother Nature seems to embrace it and accept the consequences .

Now…if only I could be as flexible as she.

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Before I tell you my story, I thought it would be good to first….talk about ..Freedom…..what exactly is freedom???

For the purposes of my story….the following aptly applies….

The ability to act freely: a state in which somebody is able to act and live as he or she chooses, without being subject to any undue restraints or restrictions…

To be released from captivity or slavery: release or rescue from being physically bound, or from being confined, enslaved, captured, or imprisoned…

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         It occurred on Monday morning…I was enjoying a solo paddle on the lake…and…..as I looked ahead I could see a  rock jutting out of the water…So as not to hit it I touched it with my paddle.  To my surprise….it was not a rock but instead….a turtle…floating.  It was not moving…was he dead?…or was he just hurt…. and so with my paddle, I lifted him onto the front of my kayak.   I immediately  noticed the fishing line…. coming from it’s mouth….and it turned out the other end of the line was attached to the shore of the lake..   Poor little turtle …I’ll call him Mike…all I could think was that  he got caught on the line/hook…. and had been floating out there with no food days…so I did the only thing I could…..SET HIM FREE !!!   I know the turtle Mike,  was dead… but at least now… he could float freely into the reeds along the shore  . I was a bit sad for the little creature…but it felt good that morning to give him his freedom.

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Hope is the state which promotes the belief

in a good outcome related to

events and circumstances in one’s life..

Think about it for a minute….unconciously we are all… hoping…hoping everyday…all the time without even thinking….. hoping that it will be sunny…hoping that we get to work on time…hoping the traffic  light does not turn red….hoping  you will  receive an email from a friend….and the list could go on and on.  We hope all the time.

        There are of course… times when hoping is what helps us to get through a tough day or a difficult time and is more conscious thought.

   It is at those moments  when having hope is what gets us through the day.

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Hope, like the gleaming taper’s light,

adorns and cheers our way;

and still, as darker grows the night,

Emits a brighter ray. 

   [Oliver Goldsmith]

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Now… I am the first to say that, by just hoping ,we cannot  make sure a good outcome to occur…however…it can sure make you feel better…more positive about the possible future…

So if all of this is true…why would we ever,ever want to…TAKE AWAY ANOTHER PERSON’S HOPE?

Oh no..!!!!!  Makes me wonder.. have I ever taken away someone’s hope??

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SMILE ???

It takes four muscles to smile,

20 to frown.

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Make someone smile today.

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Do you think you are unique??…

c646539332609418206376114b79bd6f     Do I think I am unique??? ……If  all of us  are  unique…..does that mean that none of us really are?????

Or….maybe we are equally unique….and so…differently the same???  And….If we are just like everyone else….is anyone really unique at all???

Just something to think ……..

So next time you start to feel like you are special…or unique…remember….so is everyone else.

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Have you found your place….next to another?

Do you both sparkle?

Do we help each other sparkle?

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photo …copyright..Michelle Beaudry

This got me wondering  about sparkling….do I sparkle?

….How about you?…..have you found your place?…your constellation??

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…Do you sparkle?….do you care?

I think there are days when we all sparkle….however….I know there are days when I don’t.

Hmmmmm……

I wonder …is  there is a way to keep my  sparkle ??….

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a96735_heligan-head     So….here we all are….looking forward to another year….  !!!      Will it be full of things that never were????

For me….for the past 3 years….I have  made and kept a New Year’s resolution… I know that most people say….Bah, Humbug….to any kind of resolutions…We have all made them and tried our best to keep them with little or no success…so why bother???….Well…I have come up with a way  to be able to make and keep a resolution….easily……The trick is to decide on a change that adds to your life….not one that causes stress

For example….one year I vowed to buy only vine ripened tomatoes when available….nothing less….then there was the NOT turning on the radio in the car unless driving more than 16 kms….how nice and quiet my rides were….and last year I decided to ….around the first of each month…to go clothes shopping for an item or two….to help update my shabby wardrobe.   Now you must admit…..very easy resolutions to make….and follow through on.  Not a bit of stress involved ….and the feeling of accomplishment at the end of each year.  And these resolutions I have continued to carrry on till the present!!!!!

So….now comes the difficult part….coming up with a new resolution for 2013…..but thanks to some friends of mine….on New Year/s eve….we did some brainstorming on possible ideas for resolutions…..such as….

  • Once a month…..do a first….maybe trying a new food….or…buying a new kind of soap or shampoo ….or….watching a new tv show…or…how about just brushing your teeth with your other hand…or maybe going into a store you have never visited ….pay for a stranger’s coffee …etc. etc…!!!
  • Once a month….Taking one item out of my freezer downstairs and using it….(I keep putting items in but never take them out) so it might be an adventure for me

I am feeling that the freezer idea will be it for me in 2013 ….I think  once a month ….would be a good way to go this year…..Now I am a bit excited to find out what is lurking in that freezer downstairs. ….I am just going to have to come up with a date to start…..hmmmm….I suppose if I do it sometime during the first week of each month….will be it…..Hmmmm…although the thought of firsts really intrigues me …..could I maybe….do both…????

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Could  this is be a gentle way to step out????

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Every decision is the right decision. 

I was talking with my daughter on the phone the other day…and she told me of a dilemma she was having…She had to make a decision …a choice…and she was not sure if she was making the right one… and for some reason I responded to her saying..“are there really any  wrong decisions”???

Isn’t it true that …at that moment…the moment  we make a decision…we have no way of knowing… if or how… a different decision could have turned out???…Sure we can speculate…and yes we can wonder…but can we ever really know??…And so…if we have no way of judging a possible different outcome from a different decision…wouldn’t it hold true that…our decision must be the right decision??

Now I am sure someone out there is not agreeing at all…but think for just a minute…Don’t you think that no matter who you are…no matter what kind of life you are living…and no matter how much knowledge you have…as an adult… faced with having to make a decision…you…we all… make the one that is right for us at that moment…the best one possible ???…..So keeping that in mind…I suppose it is possible …that if we are making the very best decisions we can …at the time we are faced with them…..YES…. every decision must be  the right one!!!.

All my life whenever it comes time to make a decision, I make it and forget about it .   Harry S. Truman

Could it be that …a decision is the right one…if we…believe it is the right one?”??…And if we believe it is the right one…if we accept it as the right one…isn’t it exactly that???…So then…if a person is always doubting their decisions..if a person is always thinking they could or should  have made a better one…a different one…if a person is always looking back and wishing…rather than looking ahead and living…aren’t  all of their decisions …the right decisions as well…the only difference is …they haven’t stopped to realize it???…

So it was a hard decision but I know it is the right one Graeme Le Saux

Have you ever thought about how many decisions…one person  is required to make each day???…Ever think  about  how much time  one  person can spend in a day…in…the decision making process???…That has me wondering…are there decisions through out a day …that we spend way too much time on???…Certainly there are those that require time…a bit of research and fact finding prior to a final decision…but…what about those such as … which clothes to wear or which cereal to have for breakfast…or what time to go to bed???…

If our decisions are the right ones…we need not look back…we need not have  regrets…for we know we did our  best.  SGU

Yes…there may come a day when our life will flash before our eyes…would ours be worth watching???

Have you ever had a moment … a moment when something caused your life to flash before you???…a moment when something  caused you to take a serious look at the years that have passed. ..how you have  spent them..something that made you wonder about the years to come and how you will spend them???…If your life flashed before you today…can you say…Yes…it was worth watching or do you think you would want to change the channel ???

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we had the ability to look back…and change the channel if we did not like what flashed before us???

Well…we all know that is not possible…what is past is past…However .. if our life has not been worth watching…or if our life could be a better watch…do we have the capacity to change that???…Can a person make their life…a …more worth while watch??…In the hustle and bustle of our daily routine…can a person make changes  to  their own channel???…Can we work to change  the inevitable “life flashing  before our eyes” so we will be happy with the channel our life has been on???

That got me wondering…Is it possible in looking back…  that what we see flash before our eyes …is in part …reality combined with our  perceived reality???…Is it possible that the life that might flash before us…is a mixture of…people and events and behaviors…that we have come to believe as our life…but may not have actually occurred as we remember???….Can there be memories of our lives…that  have been manufactured by others…or…redesigned by ourselves to suit our needs and attitudes ???

Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.  Albert Einstein

I wonder about this …as there are days I pick up an old journal I have written …and…I read and find to my surprise that…what I wrote about an event or feeling or behavior of a certain day…is very different from what I… now remember it to have been….In some cases it may have been only a few years and still…my memory has …over time… become distorted…So now I wonder about… if my life flashes before me one day…will it be my real life or my life distorted by time and the tricks my memory might have played.

So now I wonder…How  much of my life …that I remember to be my life…really is???…How much is a distortion of it???…When my life flashes before me one day…will I truly be watching my channel or might it be a bad connection somewhere…causing distortion???…

Only in quiet waters do things mirror themselves undistorted.

Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world.

Hans Margolius

Think about it….How quiet are  your waters ???…How distorted are your  perceptions???



I have been invited to take part in an internet radio series about resilience.

I suppose my next post should be about just that…resilience!!

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; however you are the one who gets burned.

– Buddha

Anger…who of us has never been angry??…Is it true that holding on to that anger …can  cause pain and possibly leave scars??…So I got  to wondering about anger and pain….If this is true then…does  that mean… the angrier a person is the more pain they will inflict upon themselves and the worse the scars will be???

When a person looks at anger as a hot coal…it makes one wonder…why would a person ever want to be angry???…Why would a person want to cause themselves pain…pain that they do not …HAVE…to endure???

But …you are now saying to yourself…but how does a person not get angry??…We all get angry at times…right???…And we all have times that someone or something just riles us up…I bet we have all had times when we were holding onto that hot coal of anger …with intentions of tossing it at someone…and before we even could…the coal/anger had already burned us.

Think about it…what if a person was angry for a very long time???…Would that mean that the pain would last for much longer as well??…And if that is so…wouldn’t it make sense to drop the hot coal…the anger…as soon as possible???…Wouldn’t  it be smart to …not even pick up the hot coal to begin with???….Would anyone …knowingly …consider doing such a thing??

So…you have to wonder…why do we allow ourselves to become angry???….Can anything good …actually come out of such emotions…reactions??…I am sure we have all known at least one person….who seems to be  angry ??…people who are carrying hot coals around with them…all the time… I wonder if they have any idea how that is affecting them…Could it be that the longer a person carries around a hot coal…he begins not to even feel it anymore???…I would hate to think that anyone would actually enjoy holding a hot coal…would they????

Now…this all has me wondering about anger and me…am I carrying any hot coals around at the moment???…And if so…How long have I been carrying them around with me???…I  have some serious thinking to do…and probably a few coals that need to be  dropped…I will think about this next time I feel anger building up…and next time I hope I can be smart enough to ….not  even pick up the  that hot coal…Maybe  the picture  at the start of my post will be a good visual reminder.

What about you….are you lugging around any hot coals ??? Coals you might be wanting to drop??

I once read that when you feel anger beginning to build up…just even for a few seconds…mentally…find and go to your happy place…it might just help let the anger disappear…. POOF!!!..It is worth a try.

 

When I first read this quote……it reminded me of the old song….Love the one you’re with….then…without warning… all of a sudden the quote….necessity is the mother of invention…popped into my my head.

Do what you can …with what you have... .has long been my mantra…even my husband will attest to that…It drives him crazy when he sees me doing just that!!! ..Who needs to go find the  jar opener when you have a spoon right in front of you?…or… How about the  lowly little butter knife… that can be easily transformed into a screw driver when required…I remember how my mom would transform a simple white tissue and a hair pin…into a hat for me to wear in church… on days that I forgot my Sunday bonnet…

For centuries …mankind has been doing what they can with what they have …If you don’t own a jar opener …and you need to get it opened…you will find a way….you will figure it out…Isn’t that kind of thinking….that  separates us from the other species???

I thought about this as I watched the news today…as I looked at the footage of the thousands of Japanese who have lost their homes…and everything they owned…people who are most likely…finding out how inventive they really can be….at a time when they have no choice but …to do what they can…with what they have…where they now are.

I think back to the years when I didn’t own a screw driver…and then I think about now…Today …I have access to a multitude of them…red, yellow and black handled…straight,phillips and square headed ones…Is my life better or is it just different?…All I can say is that…now…I spend more time in trying to find…the correct  screwdriver for the job…I will admit that my butter knives are in much better shape these days… and that screw heads no longer get chewed up…which seems to make my husband much happier.

It seems the less a person owns…the more creative they must be…with what they have...out of necessity most likely…So that makes me wonder about people who have lots?…The people with the jar openers and the multiple head screw drivers??…How creative do they have to be?…I wonder about me…am I less creative now…or just ….creative in different ways?..hmmm…something to ponder???

So yes… I will continue to….do what I can with what I have...The only difference is that…these days…I happen to …have more .

And now….here are a few pics of … doing what you can, with what you have..where you are…..

Sometimes you just have to do…what you have to do !!!

If the human brain were so simple that we could understand…we would be so simple that we couldn’t.

Emerson M. Pugh

Some days I think about how nice it would be ….if our lives could be simpler…not our minds…but our lives….however…Could it be that…we would need to have a simpler brain…to live a simpler life???….Could it be that… our lives are so busy and complex …because our brains are so complex??…Maybe it’s not the brain…but instead…how full it is …Can it be…the more filled  our brains …the more complex our  lives???…Can it be that simple???

When I first developed this site….I thought I would keep it simple…..mostly ..because I didn’t have much knowledge about sites…blogs …etc….My brain was not so full of such info …and so my site…was simple as well…however….it has been over a year now…and in the process of it all…I have learned so much about site building….and with all that information embedded in my little brain….life here…writing on my site…what was… a simple little site..is beginning to be….more complex…You see…..I feel the need to change up the header photo on a regular basis….and ….changing the content ….I now know how to add widgets…other sites and more…which is just the tip of the …blog  iceberg…I wonder how much more info there is …. to learn….how much more complex can one little blog/site get?…. My life…writing on line …has become …less and less simple!

And so… simple or complex…is one better than the other?…

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I think I must have accidentally hit a wrong key….I can`t get a question mark/””$/$!!!!

Like it or not…it is time to learn more…till next time.

 

Today I really thought about …being creative…yes…creative I said !!!….February is …I love to read month…and…I was thrilled to receive an  invite to ..Minawasta..a local elementary school…..to read Sam’s Weird Afternoon…However…it became a bit challenging today…5 different classrooms came to sit and listen…I was having so much fun…however…I was actually boring myself…It was the same thing over and over…listening exercise…story…help with a new story I am writing…and so…I tried to change it up a bit…get creative.

Now I must be clear…I read the book to each class as if it was the very first group I had read it to…which was fun…It was the rest of the presentation that needed something…and so…thanks to …Fred Penner and his song…Sandwiches Are Beautiful…I decided to make a song to go with my book…I hope he doesn’t mind….I just took his song and changed the words to go like this…

My shoes are beautiful…my shoes are fine.

I like my shoes…I wear them all the time.

I wear them in the winter and I wear them in the fall.

If I had  a hundred pairs of shoes…

I think I’d wear them all.


 

 

To my surprise…the kids…whom …I must say… were wonderful listeners…were …even better  singers!!!…That little addition to each presentation…made all the difference…for me anyway. I still have 4 more classes in Minnewasta Elementary…to present to…but with more activities…I am now ready for more classes.

Ahhh…the life of a published writer…fun but tiring…Hmmm…what exactly happened ???…I thought I had retired with lots  of…freedom…no demands…sleeping in late…right???…WRONG!!  …..but I wouldn’t change a thing….It is easy to forget what fun kids can be…how they can make you laugh..laugh…and laugh again!!!…Now how bad can that be???

 

Are you wondering …who are those little men in the picture??? … Look at them closely and you will see…they are all made out of ice…in the process of melting a bit…I loved them and so wanted to share.

I am waiting for some items from my publisher this week…a week of extremely cold days and nights…but I am having some fun with the temps…If the cold weather is getting you down…try one  of these …

  1. Boil some water…put some in a mug…go outside and toss the water in the air and watch…
  2. Try taking a rag…dipping it in boiling water…laying it as flat on the ground as possible…leave it for an hour…later go out and peel it off the ground….hold it in your hands and hit it against something hard…a number of times and see what happens…
  3. Needing a hammer????….put a banana outside on the ground for a few hours….when solid…have a piece of wood and nail ready…take the banana and hammer…voila!!!
  4. This is my favorite…got some bubble blowing stuff laying around from the summer…take it outside…and blow …it must be on a day when it is not windy and the temps are – 20 Celsius or colder

OK now…for those of you who hate this bitter cold…I hope I have given you some fun…easy things to try…Get the  gang outside at your next dinner party…or …when the kids get bored and you want them to have some fresh air…pull out one of these ideas!!!….They are actually so simple but quite amazing…and I am sorry if your live where it is warm…you will have to find your own fun.

I have decided to polish a few of my other Sam stories… I have been invited to read at local schools and I thought it might be fun to have some others to read as well….So…after I read my book for bookclub…Secret Sister…I will pull out my Sam stories.

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Another most expensive item….a  Gold Ferrari.

Today I was thinking about my blog…about writing…and about writing about writing….If I remember correctly…I began this site because I was in the midst of having a book published….and…with all that I had researched…I felt obligated to have a site and blog…I will admit…I was a bit lost in the beginning…but after a few weeks…I realized I wanted to share my publishing experiences with you…and I did….but somewhere along the line I got lost…maybe it was once I had the book in my hands…or could it have been once the decision-making had stopped..Doesn’t really matter…but what does matter is I lost my direction.

I now wonder….Did anyone really notice???…Did it really matter….as you keep coming back…for whatever the reason…and so now I am in a dilema…Do I get back on my original road???…or do I keep following the one I am now on???…I once wrote about having a personal Legend…and at that time…I seemed to be a bit more clear than I am now….So…I ask myself…Self???…where do you want  to go???…What will be …. your Personal Legend????

And so …to find out…you will start reading  a bit more…writing about writing for a while …so I can see where it takes me…And speaking of that…I have just received a final layout for Sam’s Weird Afternoon T-shirts…That’s right…T-shirts…My publisher is supplying me…with a few… along with the book order I just made a few weeks ago !!!…Just one more little item for me to use to market my book….and now I have to decide how and where I will use them….For 2011…I have another idea up my sleeve…ahhh…but one thing at a time…it is so easy to get ahead of myself.

The snow is falling ever so gently as the sun is going down..Oh…who am I kidding…I can’t even see the sun for all the clouds in the sky!!!…I just thought it was a nice sentence to end on….

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