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Expectations

looking forward to…anticipation a looking for as due,proper, or necessary thing looked forward to…a reason or warrant for looking forward to something;…prospect for the future, as of advancement or prosperity…the probability of the occurrence, duration, etc. of something

We all have expectations….of life….of our friends and family….of events….and ourselves……..we have expectations of zillions of things.

Many of those we are not even conscious of…take for example….a voice on the radio….. I can listen to that voice for a long time without much thought about the person ….until one day … I  when I saw  a photo of that …VOICE/person… I was surprised with what I saw…I don/t know what I had expected… however…what I saw did not seem to fit… I actually was impressed with what I saw..

So that goes to show that our expectations can not only disappoint us….but in some cases…far excede our expectations….What made me think about this subject was this …my blog.  Upon developing it my thoughts were….hmm…not exactly sure what to write….and if I do…who will even want to read it?

To my surprise….it now has over 31,000 hits…and I have to say…I am quite amazed about that….and on top of that….people actually took the time to comment….I did take a break from writing….but with the winter months rushing in…and the snow on it’s way….and seeing how many hits I have gotten….I am motivated….I am in a writing mood once again.

How about you….have you experienced any….”GREAT EXPECTATIONS ” lately???

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.
Michelangelo

Yes…only one life….that is all we are allowed….all we are given to make use of ….

….ours to use in what ever way we want….

There are no reruns….no chances to do it over again…to do it better or different…THIS IS IT !!!

You must have control of the authorship of your own destiny.  The pen that writes your life story must be held in your own hand.  ~Irene C. Kassorla

Are you holding the pen that is writing your story…your life???….Are you in control of your own destiny???….As the hours tick..tick…tick …away….hours that belong to only you…are you happy in how they are passing????

I must admit…until breast cancer became a part of my life….I don’t think I really thought about it too much…My life was so busy I never had time to stop and reflect…to really think about it….But when your life is in jeopardy…when you are not sure if you have much of  it left to live…there comes a strange awakening…an Epiphany of sorts…. which made me suddenly  feel my time was more important than ever before…and…there came a feeling of ownership of the future hours left in my life….I now felt that ..as long as I did not impose on …or negatively affect anyone else….I was going to  spend my time as I really wanted….without feeling guilty….If I wanted to watch TV for hours???…why not…after all …it is my time to spend !!…or…like now…kayaking…if I want to be …out on the lake every morning….and spend my hours that way…I will.

It has  taught me how important  time is….it has also taught me that….my time is no more important than yours…and vise versa….I believe that our minutes are  precious….they are ours to use as we wish….To  waste another person’s time… is a travesty …a crime….Each of our life’s time is limited…and…we cannot retrieve it once it is gone….we can only use it…enjoy it…No one should be allowed to steal any of it from us.

I think of life itself now as a wonderful play that I’ve written for myself,

and so my purpose is to have the utmost fun playing my part. 

~Shirley MacLaine

What kind of play have your written for yourself …so far????

 

 

At twenty we worry about what others think of us;

At forty we don’t care about what others think of us;

At sixty we discover they haven’t been thinking about us at all.

— Author Unknown

Hmm…the center of the universe…for sure we are all …the center of our own universe…but…. THE UNIVERSE???

I bet we can all remember…when we  were younger…and worrying…worrying about what others thought of us…We worried about our clothes, our hair, our cars…and more…Did we fit in??…And no matter how hard we tried…we would always worry…Funny though…Do you ever remember worrying  in that way about  others??…..I  sure don’t….so why is it that…we assumed they/others… would think  about us????…

Doesn’t it stand to reason that …during those years…as everyone is worried about …what the other person is thinking of them…the other person is worried about what others are thinking of them too???…and so…it would make sense to assume that…no one is thinking about anyone but themselves!!!..Interesting that it takes us so many years to figure that one out…to realize that …no…the universe does not revolve around us.

For sure we will all experience times of success…or times of great excitement……a time when we may have a lapse of reality…a moment of regression…when we feel we are the center of the universe…. But…as the years go by…we know …we aren’t and  we never were.

 

 

Moments … sparkling stars in our hands – that melt like a snowflake.


I believe we all have things …we would like to begin doing…now…but don’t…Things that we believe would add to our lives…however…we never take the time to do them…or make the changes to be able to do them…Can it be that life is easier if…we just keep doing what we are used to doing…and ..never begin doing what we really want to do???

A few months ago…I got thinking about just that ….what  is it that I want to do…I got thinking about sparkling moments…my sparkling moments….and….have I had any lately???…I began wondering ….Am I doing what I really want to do….NOW?????….Like many of you….I have been doing what I have to do…doing what others what me to do…what I need to do…for so long….I was forgetting to pay  attention to ….what is it that I want to do???

I suppose …there can be things we want to do… but we are just are not ready to embrace them… not ready to try  something new …even though we really want to… maybe we are afraid to do …that something  we really want to do???…Maybe there are things we want to do now…but don’t know how to get there…don’t know how to take the step.

I finally did it…I embraced something new…I have begun doing something I WANT TO DO….NOW!!!….I have added a sparkling moment to my life….What is it you might be wondering???….Well…For me ….it is …The Eiderdown….my  new red and yellow and orange …40 pound kayak….yes…I went and bought  a kayak this week….It has turned out to be …exactly what “I want to do now“….I will admit…It was a bit intimidating at first thought…and it meant separating me from some of my money….however…I have been feeling the need for something new….for something that was all mine…for something challenging I could do all on my own…independently….whenever I wanted …or needed to…Who would have thought.???…A kayak…yes a kayak of all things.

It is pretty difficult to describe the feeling of moving through the water…the feeling of complete control of your body and the water surrounding you…alone in the quiet of nature…The being able  to get the kayak into and out of the truck…and …down to the water…with absolutely no assistance…to tie it down securely for travel…with only minor bumps and bruises…is exhilarating…It is an accomplishment…one that I was determined to do…but one that I even surprised myself in being able to…

Had a good friend not mentioned kayaks to me. some months ago..I am not sure I would have ever found this special something…I want to do NOW!!…My first time sitting in and paddling my kayak…I truly can tell you….was a sparkling moment in my life…Melt like a snowflake???…Not for some time I am certain.

How about you…what is it that you want to do NOW???…Don’t let those sparkling stars…melt away!!!


How does a person know…if …when….they have become who they really are???

Do you ever sit and wonder about…who you really are …and if who you are is who you really want to be???…Do you ever think about things you might like to do…but don’t…or…ways you would like to act…but don’t???

  I wonder about just that some days…I know there are things I would like to do…and ways I would like to be…and every once in a while…I find that I am able to step outside of my box…outside of my present comfort zone…I  take a step beyond who I now am…a step beyond what my life has been…and…in doing so… I do believe…it brings me closer to who I really want to be.

My will… shall shape the future….
Whether I fail or succeed…
shall be no man’s doing but my own….
I am the force. …
I can clear any obstacle before me …
or I can be lost in the maze. …
My choices are  my responsibilities. …
Win or lose…
only I hold the key to my destiny……

by Elaine Maxwell
 

So…will this lead me in the direction of ….becoming  more …the person I really am???….I have no idea…but one thing is for sure… I will continue …to do things…with my aim being…to become the more real me!!!

Is it true… that we are never ready…never prepared???….Surely we can’t always be prepared for the unexpected…but…what about the expected???…Is it that the expected…is never really what we expected at all???

I wonder…If we can’t be prepared…no matter how much we plan …is being prepared… or…at least…trying to be prepared…the right thing to do???…Should a person spend time preparing for the expected when  often ..the unexpected occurs???

I… for one have often  found myself…thinking… I know what to expect…and finding out… it was not quite what I expected…I am sure many of you have been in that same place a few or more times in your lives…and…when we find ourselves in that place…we wonder… how did we overlook those unexpected things.???..How did we …not… know what to expect???…We were so prepared..or…were we???.

It got me wondering about dealing with the unexpected …that…often arrives with the expected…I suppose the unexpected …should be expected…right??? …And if that is so…then yes…the unexpected…actually becomes the expected !!!…I got thinking about dealing with those things we had not planned on…It is easy to deal with those things we can prepare ourselves for…but how about those we have not???…Can a person… prepare for the expected…unexpected events..moments..times..situations..details in our days???

I got wondering about how well I handle the unexpected…how effective have I been in dealing with it???…These moments can cause us stress we had not counted on…can cause our emotions to erupt…so I suppose HOW we handle them …will be the deciding factor in…how well we get through our days…Like driving a car…if your equipment is in order…if it has been serviced regularly…if it has a full fuel tank.. it is as best prepared as it can be…right???….However….once it is on the road….if the driver is prepared or not…will be the deciding factor in…how it gets through it’s travels…how a driver handles the …curves and bumps along the way…There are all levels of driving skills… on the road…just as there are all levels of preparedness… in life.

Can anyone … ever really be prepared…. for what they expect???

Is it true that life will only demand  from you…the strength you possess???
How interesting to think about…Does that mean that life…in some cosmic way…knows what to throw at each of us… according to our strength???….or… does it mean that no matter what life asks of you…no matter how difficult it might be….you do have the strength to handle it???
Is it possible that we all have the resiliency and strength to rise to the occasion…any occasion… if required???… Can it be that we have absolutely no idea of our strength…until the day/s come that it is needed???…Do you think it is possible to surprise…even ourselves…of the strength we all have???
I remember talking to my brother after being diagnosed with cancer. We are a family of four siblings…he being the youngest….and I remember his words to me…in all kindness he said….” Out of the four of us…if anyone were to receive such news…it’s a good thing it is you as …you are the strongest”.  My immediate thought was…well…if that is true…I sure wish I weren’t so strong…and… then was  is my doctor…in asking him how difficult was the next year going to be?…and he said…”Well, how strong are you?…I must admit…I wasn’t really sure!!!
It is worth remembering that the time of greatest gain in terms of wisdom and inner strength is often that of greatest difficulty
So if going through times of great difficulty…provides wisdom and inner strength…does that mean those who have to deal with lots of difficulty are wiser and stronger than others???…
So my question  is….I wonder how strong/resilient I really am…what about you?… Do you think we really know our own strength..our ability to be resilient?…Is it only by adversity that we find out…what we are capable of…how well we are  able to rise to each occasion as it appears???
If it is true  that If  life demands from us the strength we possess…wouldn’t it hold true that  …we have the strength to handle ANY and ALL the demands we that come our way???…That is very comforting in a strange way…don’t you agree??

You have probably heard the phrase..Seize the day….however…Can you think of a moment of happiness …that took you by surprise???….A  moment of surprise that you can actually say…seized you???

Tonight I had exactly a moment like that…I was surprised…over come….seized by the moment!!!  Our book club meeting was at my home this evening…The Happiness Project was the book we talked about…and in that chat I had mentioned that…something I would love to do is… to fly a kite!…The evening carried on…good wine…great food..and a few hours later…once the evening was just about over… and everyone began  packing up…one friend said she had a little something for me…Hmm…this was strange…and very interesting…why only for me I wondered…what ever could it be???

She ran out to her car….and…a few minutes later she returned to the  house with a bag in hand….She told us said she had done some house cleaning…and…had a few items in her car to bring to the thrift shop…however…she decided  this one item would be best if  given to me…We were all still wondering…what might it be…and then she told us…

A kite….It was a kite…she was giving me a KITE!!!

Now…is that synchronicity…serendipity…coincidence…karma…or what????…

I think we all were in awe of the event for a moment…and  I…I was so thrilled that …without even thinking …I gave her a big hug…and then we all laughed…Yes I was seized by that moment…how could I not have been????…Here we were …talking about happiness…and my evening ended with me surprised and thoroughly taken/seized by an unexpected  moment of happiness!!

So what about you???…any such moments of late??…Have you ever been the person to give  such a moment to someone else???… …Have you been the receiver of such a moment of surprise???

That has me wondering if…Is it possible for each and every one of us ….to make such moments occur…or…are such moments completely out of our hands???…Do we each have the capacity to be able to make happy moments for others???

Once the weather cooperates…you will find me out in a field….flying my newly acquired, gently used, kite!!!

Thanks to (V)…for providing us all with a moment of happiness.

I have been invited to take part in an internet radio series about resilience.

I suppose my next post should be about just that…resilience!!

We have all entertained  others  in lots of different ways…which usually involves a bit of effort on  our part…like making a dinner…or…having a party…or…telling a joke…or relating a story….but…entertain by just listening???

Think about it…there are people who like to entertain sometimes…and there are people who enjoy being entertained…sometimes…and we have all met the people who seem to entertain …all the time???…I am not talking about paid entertainers…but rather…family members…or…friends…or acquaintances who talk…talk…talk…Those people who talk all the time and never stop.

I wonder…could it be that they have so much bottled up… that when in the company of others…they just have to share???….Could it be that they dread those moments of silence that might occur if they stop talking???….or…Maybe they enjoy having a constant audience …maybe they get some kind of positive reinforcement from it….Hmmm…one might say that they seem very self absorbed…but…could it be that they have no idea what they are doing?????..If someone were to tell them….you monopolize conversations… you never let anyone else talk…do you think they would be horrified??

Could it be …the only way to entertain such folk …is to listen to them…or…at least seem to listen???…Have you ever spent time with someone like that…only to come home and realize…they never asked you one question???…That although they have told you tons about themselves…they have learned nothing about you…

Many years ago I had a good friend…we used to sit for hours chatting…till one day I actually listened…What I realized is that we were having two very separate conversations ..we were each just waiting for the other to stop talking…to then get our words in…neither of us really ever heard the other… yet to an outsider it would have looked like a normal conversation taking place…It was then I had to say something to her….and I told her what I just realized…we were not having a conversation at all…we were having two!!!…Interesting how after that…our chats totally changed…We had no idea we had gotten into such a habit and it never happened again.

Oh no…what about me???….I don’t think I monopolize conversations…do I???….Although  I will admit …I do like to talk??…Yes..and  I do occasionally interrupt others when talking…but I am working on that…Could it be that listening is the only way to entertain me????…Hmmm…I suppose knowing that to be a possibility…is the first step to improvement.

Have you ever considered ..is your entertainment …others listening to you????

Quick post today….just want to thank you all for stopping in for a visit and commenting on my posts. I would have         to spend days responding to each one individually… so…I decided to say thank you this way. My blog is now over one year old and I will continue to post new and interesting information and photos.

Thanks a bunch!!!!

 

 

 

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; however you are the one who gets burned.

– Buddha

Anger…who of us has never been angry??…Is it true that holding on to that anger …can  cause pain and possibly leave scars??…So I got  to wondering about anger and pain….If this is true then…does  that mean… the angrier a person is the more pain they will inflict upon themselves and the worse the scars will be???

When a person looks at anger as a hot coal…it makes one wonder…why would a person ever want to be angry???…Why would a person want to cause themselves pain…pain that they do not …HAVE…to endure???

But …you are now saying to yourself…but how does a person not get angry??…We all get angry at times…right???…And we all have times that someone or something just riles us up…I bet we have all had times when we were holding onto that hot coal of anger …with intentions of tossing it at someone…and before we even could…the coal/anger had already burned us.

Think about it…what if a person was angry for a very long time???…Would that mean that the pain would last for much longer as well??…And if that is so…wouldn’t it make sense to drop the hot coal…the anger…as soon as possible???…Wouldn’t  it be smart to …not even pick up the hot coal to begin with???….Would anyone …knowingly …consider doing such a thing??

So…you have to wonder…why do we allow ourselves to become angry???….Can anything good …actually come out of such emotions…reactions??…I am sure we have all known at least one person….who seems to be  angry ??…people who are carrying hot coals around with them…all the time… I wonder if they have any idea how that is affecting them…Could it be that the longer a person carries around a hot coal…he begins not to even feel it anymore???…I would hate to think that anyone would actually enjoy holding a hot coal…would they????

Now…this all has me wondering about anger and me…am I carrying any hot coals around at the moment???…And if so…How long have I been carrying them around with me???…I  have some serious thinking to do…and probably a few coals that need to be  dropped…I will think about this next time I feel anger building up…and next time I hope I can be smart enough to ….not  even pick up the  that hot coal…Maybe  the picture  at the start of my post will be a good visual reminder.

What about you….are you lugging around any hot coals ??? Coals you might be wanting to drop??

I once read that when you feel anger beginning to build up…just even for a few seconds…mentally…find and go to your happy place…it might just help let the anger disappear…. POOF!!!..It is worth a try.

 

I found this quote and it made me smile…

mostly because…

even in it’s shortness… it says so much.

be kind whenever possible…it is always possible

This simple little statement made me wonder … it sounds so simple…BE KIND…yet in practice…it is not…However…for  us to be kind…it does not cost us anything…it does not hurt us…it doesn’t take much of our time…and….we all know how to do it…so why then… is it so difficult???

I would guess that we can all very easily…think of a time  when someone …was  NOT kind to us…when someone said or did something that hurt…that made us feel bad…or….how about the times when…we have done that to others…when we have not been kind.

Why if being kind… is such an easy thing to do….do people choose NOT TO  BE..?

I would like to believe that …we all want to be kindwe all do our best to be …as kind as we can be…so why are there times we are not??… Could it be that we don’t really think about it?? …Could it be that we don’t realize our unkindness??…Could  it be that we are in such a rush to get on with our lives….that we sometimes…forget about those around us??…Maybe it is that we are just too tired to even consider it some days…being kind.

I think you would agree that. ..people love it when  someone is kind to them…..and that…it sure make us feel good when we are kind to someone… so why then… why wouldn’t we all want to be kinder to each other …more often???…Do we not like feeling good???….Is it that other things and emotions ….get in our way and make being kind … more difficult than it should be?

Sure we all partake in those special little acts of kindness…those good Samaritan acts… But what about our everyday actions??…How kind conscious are we with them???…How kind conscious are we to our kids…our husbands….the people we see everyday??…How kind are we from minute to minute???…Is it possible to be kinder…or not???…If there were a seminar on learning to be kind….how many of us would consider taking part?.

How kind do you want to be???… Think about it.

Be kind whenever possible…it is always possible

isn’t it???




My book Sam’s Weird Afternoon is presently in …

The New Covey Book Cover Award….contest.

Kurt Jones  of  Tate Publishing…was the brilliant illustrator  I worked with ..to develop Sam and the cover of Sam’s Weird Afternoon….. I was so very happy when we finalized what Sam would look like…and the cover came out better than I expected…I think it is very colorful and  eye catching…I hope you do too!

My  hope is that with enough votes from all of you ….my book cover might just be a winner for April !!!

Just click on the link below …go to entry # 14…and vote.

http://thenewcoveycoverawards.blogspot.com/

Voting will take place from April 1- 15th.

Sam…Kurt and I….thank you all in advance for your support and I will let you know what the results are after the 15th.

Thanks to all of you who voted …Sally and I are very excited about this…..Sam

I continue to read on in my book…the book chosen by my reading group …The Chicks in the Sticks….to discuss at our next get book club get together…The Happiness Project…and although a number of the “chicks” did not find it interesting or compelling at all, I did. Have you ever started reading a book… one that seemed to appear in your life…just at the right time??…Have you ever thought about that book…and wondered if you had begun reading it 6 months ago…. you would not have enjoyed it as much??…Well for me this book appeared at just the right time in my life…at least that is how it seems to me.

So you may be thinking …why a book about happiness???……Is she is unhappy??…I don’t think so…I am generally a happy person…so…I can’t exactly explain it… however… since I began reading it…I can truly say…I am a happier person …so my thinking is…why try to understand it?.

So how happy can one person be?…If like  honest Abe says...you are as happy as you make up your mind to be... does that mean we never have to be unhappy if we don’t want to be??… I suppose if we had more control over our mind and how we think from moment to moment…maybe that is true…However…I don’t know about you but…it is those darned old emotions that seem to get in the way…they seem to have a mind of their own some days…a mind that seems separate from the one I have control over…making it difficult to keep that happiness quotient up at certain moments.

From what I have now read…it is believed that happiness is not the opposite of sadness…that they are two very different emotions…So ..Does that mean …they can both exist together…side by side???…Does that mean a person can be happy and sad at the same time???…I got to thinking about that and what came to mind was my mom’s death…and yes…I think that is true…I was so sad that she had passed away…yet I was so very happy that she did not have to deal with any more treatments…so…yes…I do believe …happy and sad can sit at the same table.

So would that mean ..

in the absence of happiness…a person is not really sad…but rather…less happy…and in the absence of sadness…a person is not necessarily happy…but rather…just not sad…

Something to think about….

 

I’d stand in line for Confession with old people and little kids, and as the line moved up, I knew when I got into the box that I would lie! Again!
Mercedes McCambridge

Wow…does that ever bring back memories….and so I wonder….Are  confessions really good for the soul???…
Hmmm….I remember when I was just a kid… growing  up Catholic…confession was a regular occurrence for me…. I was so worried that I might forget…some  terrible sin …I had made over the past week…that… …to cover for that…I too …would always end with confessing … I lied!!!…
Looking back…I remember  I always said that …just in case I might have forgotten a little sin…What little sin I didn’t really know…I thought I was being so very smart in those days…and I never did tell anyone…till years later… And  now I learn that … I was not alone in my cleverness…as Mercedes McCambridge…did the same thing…ahh..great minds….

Anyway….I will admit that..in those days…confession  WAS ,,,good for my soul..you see..I was always relieved after confession…..I think just the act of  doing it …was penance enough to last me for years…To this day I wonder…was that priest was ever really listening .
However…Here I am… decades later…wondering if Confessing is still good for the soul…good for my soul??…and so…I thought …why not try an experiment….here goes……Millions of people watch TV …and…millions of them watch lots….and …millions of them lie about it all the time…not wanting to be judged because of it….Well..I will confess….I am here to say…I love TV…yes…I have said it…I love TV !!!…. I love watching my TV….I love getting to know all those characters in the shows…I love seeing places I have been to on my T.V….I love reality shows  and police shows….I love …Two and a half Men…C.S.I….Hawaii 5 O…Law and Order and more….
Whew….that wasn’t so bad….Yes…I actually think….that was good for my soul…

Talking about T.V….got me thinking…Last night I …as I was watching  my T.V….I thought  about  some of the weird …unreal …stuff …we watch…stuff  they keep putting  into shows…..stuff that in real life…just would not happen…thing like…
  • when someone is driving, looks away from the road…at a passenger..not for a second…not for 5 seconds…but for 10 seconds or more…and doesn’t get into an accident!!
  • chases…when let’s say the police are running after a criminal…for blocks….jumping over walls…and rolling over cars…and no one is out of breath
  • then there is the squealing of tires at really inappropriate times…like when a car is slowly taking off.
  • when someone wants to sneak up on someone but they keep the headlights on or loudly shut doors
  • when female actors  go to bed and wake up with all their makeup on

And the best one is …the one that I keep seeing over and over again is….

  • C.S.I…How each time they are at a crime scene…with those little flashlights…looking for evidence …and they find the one little hair or the one fingerprint which cracks the case..

I always wonder how… any home could be so immaculate… that only DNA from the night/day of the crime….would be the only debris  there….I sure hope that  a C.S.I crew…never has to come to my home…I am afraid that if they had to search myhouse…they would find a weeks worth of “stuff” to bag…and the case would never get solved!!!

Ok now…what do these unreal TV things have to do with confession….Nothing…However…I wonder how you feel about confession…would it be good for YOUR soul???…Is it possible that the more a person divulges about themsleves…the more freeing it can become???….If a person had no secrets…if a person’s life were like an open book…or…clear as a sparkling glass window….would it be freeing????

Last night…I was given the gift of laughter…over and over an over again…as wonderful friends…entertained me with photos…stories…gifts…cards…writings..books…and songs…that I will never forget..!!  What a night!!!!…I was encouraged to wear…  a plastic , glittery tierra…a shiny beaded necklace…a mask …. as I blew out candles …did  blowing of soap bubbles in the frozen outside with friends…Lots of clowning around all night…made me feel…Forever Young.

So…Why did they do that you might ask???…Why give me the gift of laughter???….Well…Maybe because they just wanted to …or…maybe because it has been a long winter and we all needed a laugh…or…could it be because I sent out invites to all of them…and asked for it…a night of laughter????…Yes…I did ask for laughter….and why not???…Remember the old song…It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to???….Well….I thought it was time to change that to…It’s my party and I’ll laugh if I want to…and so…being my party… I laughed…and laughed and laughed…I laughed so hard..for so long …that my cheeks actually ached  !…I must say..it is all … “Thanks to a bunch of wonderful friends !!..the why is not important.  

So that got me to wondering about…asking  for and receiving something…versus… hoping/wishing  and waiting for…something to appear or occur in our lives….But how many of us…who really want something  from someone..do nothing to get it ???…How many of us… would rather wait and wish and hope???…and …how many of us find…we  are only  disappointed time after time???…How often do we NOT get what we would like???….How often do we keep waiting…keep not acting or asking???

Is it possible that if we don’t ask or act…we could be waiting forever???….Is it possible that  we could be constantly dissapointed…over and over again???…Does all the wishing and hoping… give us what we would like..???…Have you ever really thought about that???…Now I am the first to say that wishing and hoping are great attributes..in some situations…and definitely have their place… in the bigger scheme of things.

However…Many years ago…when my mortality was staring me in the eyes…I began to think about all the little things I had always hoped to get…the little things I had always wished would happen ..the little things that had now… become big things …Those  very little things that…the  longer they never occurred …the bigger they became… in my mind…It is not a bucket list but rather….my little plastic pail  list…..I began to look at that list and decided it was time to take action…Just like the other night…for my birthday asking  for a night of laughter…and…laughter I got!~!!..How simple was that????….All I had to do was …ASK ..!!

How did I feel about that???…Asking for something???….Would it have been better to get it without asking???…Might I have gotten it if I didn’t ask???? …well…I will never know….but with my cheeks still aching from the laughter I received…it couldn’t have been …any better !!!

“Stop the mindless wishing that things would be different. Rather than wasting time and emotional and spiritual energy in explaining why we don’t have what we want, we can start to pursue other ways to get it.”

Greg Anderson

So..my question is….what are we all waiting for.???…If there is something you would like.. !!! …It doesn’t matter if it is a laugh from your friends…roses from your husband….a wonderful gift for your birthday….it might even be a night out at a restaurant for dinner….or…a little hug…or maybe…that simple little swivel disc for exercising…(that is a story for a later day)…If you want it ….act/ask…why have we been waiting ????….

Do all  good things come to those who wait????…..or rather…is it…Ask and you shall receive…!!!

Hmmm….something to ponder….


Inside every older person is a younger person wondering what  happened.

As another decade passes for me…in my mind…I do wonder…What the hell happened…for sure…However…I am..for sure… a young person…at least that is my perception of me…How about you???…Young…old…in between…not sure??…Well as each year passes…I tend to check my inner age…and funny thing…it never seems to change much…but why is it then…that the mirror reflects ..Grey hair??? Wrinkles???…Who the heck is that person in the mirror????….Hmmm…Maybe we shouldn’t have all those mirrors… might we be more content without them???

So…It is because of the passing of another birthday for me…that…Today I want to say a word or two about Face Book…Yes..I said Face Book…What might a birthday have to do with Face Book?????…What does the passing of another year have to do with…that social network you either love or hate…that network that they even made a movie about…the movie that I watched while flying over the Pacific ocean last week….Face Book… Well…I am one of those people who love this social network… it keeps me in touch with friends and family who live far away…it allows me to see photos of them and what they are up to….it connects me to people I might never have the chance to see…However…I must admit… at times I can hate it…like when I read  that someone baked a cake …or that someone did not get any sleep last night…or that someone is having a tough day at work…etc…???…What is that all about???…

However…yesterday was one of those days I loved it….Why???….well…I received over 40 emails…over 40 birthday wishes…from family…friends…acquaintances…and even people I have never met… saying Happy Birthday…through Face Book….You may say…ahh…but it only took them a minute to do so…Yes…I will agree with that….the messages  were simple and short…and probably took less than 60 seconds to send…but you know what???…all of those people could have spent that minute …that moment in time….doing something else…but they chose to think of me  …and without Face Book…that moment in time would have been missed…a moment when we were on each others minds….and how cool is that!!!!

So I would say to all of you who use Face Book …Every once in a while…take just a minute…take a minute and connect with someone…Give them a minute of your time …just 60 seconds….and know that when you do so… not only will you be thinking about that person…but they will be thinking about you…as well.

Isn’t it those moments …those moments when we think of someone else…or some one else thinks of us…that bring a smile to our face???…Are not those moments …sometimes…just as important…just as welcomed…as any bigger ones???…Think of all the moments/minutes…are lives are made up of…all the minutes/moments that we remember…all the moments that we shared…or still can share…how precious a moment can actually be !!  So…instead of wondering …”what the hell happened”…instead of wondering where the time went…maybe we should all …instead…think about…were we want our time to go???…How we want to spend our future moments???

Do you have any idea …. how you will spend the next… moments …in your life????

To all of you who have a birthday in February like me….I wish you a HAPPY ONE !!

Is there anyone out there whose birthday falls on Feb. 16th too????

So far…me…Cindy…and Neil…any others?????

 

Yes…You may have guessed…I have been away on holiday…Maui Hawaii to be exact….great to get away for all the snow and cold to break up the cold Manitoba winter..

I am now back and ready to blog once again…   However…as I am still in the process of unpacking…it may be a bit before I have time to sit down and write….lots to share.

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