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How many heartbeats does one person have in a lifetime??

An old friend from years past got me thinking about this…heartbeats…how many have I used and how many do I have left…and how exactly will I spend them?

So…let’s say I live to be 75 (average life expectancy) …that gives me 15 more years of heartbeats at a rate 72  of beats a minute…to use…I am not going to bore you with the math.

Hmmm….it seems I have used up a good percentage of MY available heartbeats…so I had better not waste what may be remaining.

I also got wondering…how did  I spent all those past heartbeats ?

AND  SO….

Some years ago I spend numerous heartbeats … writing children’s stories/poems.  Last week when cleaning out a space in my home, I found a binder with all the creations I had long since forgotten about. In thinking about heartbeats…I thought I would share some of them here on this blog …I suppose in doing this…

 This is a way of sharing my present and past heartbeats with all of you.??

Sam…Don’t

My mom will always tell me

“No, no, you shouldn’t, don’t

I find that quite confusing

Cause normally I won’t

But when she says “don’t do that !!!”

Whatever that might be

She makes me think about it

I get confused…you see???

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When mom says please don’t do that

the first thing that I think

I really want to try that

Before I can even blink

Like when she says “don’t eat that”

before she has a clue

that thing if right inside my mouth

And I begin to chew

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When in the tub… mom always says

“Don’t splash and please no bubbles”

But splashing makes the bath such fun

Which always causes trouble

Why does mom say “Don’t touch that” ??

Cause it makes me want to try

And so I touch it quickly

And then she wonders why??

On days when it is rainy

with big  puddles on my street

Why does she yell  “No splashing Sam”

Then… I can’t control my feet

And when I crawl in bed at night

Mom says  ” Don’t suck your thumb”

But that just makes me want to

Isn’t that just  dumb?

Mom gives me straws to drink my milk

Then says “No blowing bubbles”

If she would just not say such things

I’d cause her fewer troubles

My mother always tells me

She wants me to be good

If she didn’t give such fun ideas

I’d behave…I know I could.

Written by…ME…

Sally Unrau … May 23, 2006

Thanks for sharing my heartbeats today….I hope you enjoyed the first of many kids stories.

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I go to nature to be soothed and healed, and to have my senses put in order.
John Burroughs

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I have spent hours on our lake waters the past three years…and each year I am amazed by the changes of the landscape and the wildlife that find a home within.  However…. …Where are all the ducks, geese, small wading birds and muskrat???   Why would there be many one year and almost none  the next???

The only thing that comes to mind is the differing water levels each year.  This year the lake water were extremely high…and moving too fast….could that be the reason???

Was there no place for nesting to take place??   I miss  watching the young grow up…and looking forward to finding them each time I  visit the lake.

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 However…the  Turtles…the beautiful painted turtles seem to be a constant in the landscape…everyday around 10 am.

I love to float beside them …near the reeds…as they  hug a piece of driftwood and raise the heads toward the sun in unison, is always a special moment.

thCAXRF6AP For everything you have missed, you have gained something else, and for  everything you gain, you lose something else.

Ralph  Waldo Emerson

Yes…I am missing something this summer…. the creatures …however…I have  spent more time observing the trees and the plants as they grow and change during the summer…more than ever before.  I have observed the changing of the shores…how the rain , sun and wind affect the growth, in and around the waters edge… how the water surface explodes some days with new growth…and how it can  visually change from being glasslike in one spot yet  choppy with waves in another.

Ahhhh…change.  Mother Nature seems to embrace it and accept the consequences .

Now…if only I could be as flexible as she.

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Before I tell you my story, I thought it would be good to first….talk about ..Freedom…..what exactly is freedom???

For the purposes of my story….the following aptly applies….

The ability to act freely: a state in which somebody is able to act and live as he or she chooses, without being subject to any undue restraints or restrictions…

To be released from captivity or slavery: release or rescue from being physically bound, or from being confined, enslaved, captured, or imprisoned…

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         It occurred on Monday morning…I was enjoying a solo paddle on the lake…and…..as I looked ahead I could see a  rock jutting out of the water…So as not to hit it I touched it with my paddle.  To my surprise….it was not a rock but instead….a turtle…floating.  It was not moving…was he dead?…or was he just hurt…. and so with my paddle, I lifted him onto the front of my kayak.   I immediately  noticed the fishing line…. coming from it’s mouth….and it turned out the other end of the line was attached to the shore of the lake..   Poor little turtle …I’ll call him Mike…all I could think was that  he got caught on the line/hook…. and had been floating out there with no food days…so I did the only thing I could…..SET HIM FREE !!!   I know the turtle Mike,  was dead… but at least now… he could float freely into the reeds along the shore  . I was a bit sad for the little creature…but it felt good that morning to give him his freedom.

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“I’m drawn to places that beguile and inspire, sedate and stir, places where, for a few blissful moments I loosen my death grip on life, and can breathe again. It turns out these destinations have a name:

thin places.”

 Eric Weiner

It was not until a few years ago , when my sister told me about her thin place,…that  I first heard this term.

 She shared with me…a favorite beach she likes to spend time at….where wild horses can be seen running on  the sand… a location she called her thin place.

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I immediately  wondered….what is it that makes a place… thin….how does a person know if they have  ever been ….to a thin place??

Is it a place where the… spiritual…the physical ….the mental….and the natural….have  a fine line between them?..

when they are indistinguishable from one another???

Is a thin place….an actual physical location???…or is it a state of mind???

Some have said that a Thin Place… cannot be described with words.

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So that got me to wondering….have I ever found myself in a thin place?

…the first thing that came to mind was…

my kayak… paddling all alone…. on the lake or down the creek in my kayak…

Yes…I do believe that is MY thin place.

A place where I can be alone but never feel  alone….where my mind can breath and my body relax… where life as it is ….seems to disappear.

Perhaps that is why I look so forward to the end of a long cold Canadian winter… a chance to once again….return to that place…my Thin Place.

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Have you ever been there?

Have you found your….

Thin Place???

Do you think you are unique??…

c646539332609418206376114b79bd6f     Do I think I am unique??? ……If  all of us  are  unique…..does that mean that none of us really are?????

Or….maybe we are equally unique….and so…differently the same???  And….If we are just like everyone else….is anyone really unique at all???

Just something to think ……..

So next time you start to feel like you are special…or unique…remember….so is everyone else.

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Have you found your place….next to another?

Do you both sparkle?

Do we help each other sparkle?

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photo …copyright..Michelle Beaudry

This got me wondering  about sparkling….do I sparkle?

….How about you?…..have you found your place?…your constellation??

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…Do you sparkle?….do you care?

I think there are days when we all sparkle….however….I know there are days when I don’t.

Hmmmmm……

I wonder …is  there is a way to keep my  sparkle ??….

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a96735_heligan-head     So….here we all are….looking forward to another year….  !!!      Will it be full of things that never were????

For me….for the past 3 years….I have  made and kept a New Year’s resolution… I know that most people say….Bah, Humbug….to any kind of resolutions…We have all made them and tried our best to keep them with little or no success…so why bother???….Well…I have come up with a way  to be able to make and keep a resolution….easily……The trick is to decide on a change that adds to your life….not one that causes stress

For example….one year I vowed to buy only vine ripened tomatoes when available….nothing less….then there was the NOT turning on the radio in the car unless driving more than 16 kms….how nice and quiet my rides were….and last year I decided to ….around the first of each month…to go clothes shopping for an item or two….to help update my shabby wardrobe.   Now you must admit…..very easy resolutions to make….and follow through on.  Not a bit of stress involved ….and the feeling of accomplishment at the end of each year.  And these resolutions I have continued to carrry on till the present!!!!!

So….now comes the difficult part….coming up with a new resolution for 2013…..but thanks to some friends of mine….on New Year/s eve….we did some brainstorming on possible ideas for resolutions…..such as….

  • Once a month…..do a first….maybe trying a new food….or…buying a new kind of soap or shampoo ….or….watching a new tv show…or…how about just brushing your teeth with your other hand…or maybe going into a store you have never visited ….pay for a stranger’s coffee …etc. etc…!!!
  • Once a month….Taking one item out of my freezer downstairs and using it….(I keep putting items in but never take them out) so it might be an adventure for me

I am feeling that the freezer idea will be it for me in 2013 ….I think  once a month ….would be a good way to go this year…..Now I am a bit excited to find out what is lurking in that freezer downstairs. ….I am just going to have to come up with a date to start…..hmmmm….I suppose if I do it sometime during the first week of each month….will be it…..Hmmmm…although the thought of firsts really intrigues me …..could I maybe….do both…????

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Could  this is be a gentle way to step out????

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Expectations

looking forward to…anticipation a looking for as due,proper, or necessary thing looked forward to…a reason or warrant for looking forward to something;…prospect for the future, as of advancement or prosperity…the probability of the occurrence, duration, etc. of something

We all have expectations….of life….of our friends and family….of events….and ourselves……..we have expectations of zillions of things.

Many of those we are not even conscious of…take for example….a voice on the radio….. I can listen to that voice for a long time without much thought about the person ….until one day … I  when I saw  a photo of that …VOICE/person… I was surprised with what I saw…I don/t know what I had expected… however…what I saw did not seem to fit… I actually was impressed with what I saw..

So that goes to show that our expectations can not only disappoint us….but in some cases…far excede our expectations….What made me think about this subject was this …my blog.  Upon developing it my thoughts were….hmm…not exactly sure what to write….and if I do…who will even want to read it?

To my surprise….it now has over 31,000 hits…and I have to say…I am quite amazed about that….and on top of that….people actually took the time to comment….I did take a break from writing….but with the winter months rushing in…and the snow on it’s way….and seeing how many hits I have gotten….I am motivated….I am in a writing mood once again.

How about you….have you experienced any….”GREAT EXPECTATIONS ” lately???

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.
Michelangelo

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easily broken, shattered, or damaged; delicate; brittle; frail: a fragile ceramic container; a very fragile alliance.
vulnerably delicate, as in appearance: She has a fragile beauty.
lacking in substance or force; flimsy: a fragile excuse.

Have you ever thought about fragility…and fragile  things… like a snowflake or china bowl or maybe that  glass tea pot???…What about people??…..Have you ever met someone who seemed to be in a fragile state….or maybe it was you….have you ever  felt fragile???

Is it   true……Do others really mold our dreams and hold our hopes in their hands??….If that is true…others are vital to our lives……and if so…how carefully do we handle our relationship with them?.Is it with care… in the same way we handle  that rose bud about to open…or the fragile china bowl?….It is so easy to take for granted those closest to us….we are all guilty of that at times…..Imagine the centre of this little plate being you/me…..and all the buttons around us being family, friends and others…..by being careful with each other we are able to keep a strong connection…we are able to continue to touch each other’s hearts and be the strongest possible….

 

“When we try to pick out anything by itself, we find it hitched to everything else in the Universe.” – John Muir

Ever thought about …..Who you are hitched to ?

 

 

 

Every decision is the right decision. 

I was talking with my daughter on the phone the other day…and she told me of a dilemma she was having…She had to make a decision …a choice…and she was not sure if she was making the right one… and for some reason I responded to her saying..“are there really any  wrong decisions”???

Isn’t it true that …at that moment…the moment  we make a decision…we have no way of knowing… if or how… a different decision could have turned out???…Sure we can speculate…and yes we can wonder…but can we ever really know??…And so…if we have no way of judging a possible different outcome from a different decision…wouldn’t it hold true that…our decision must be the right decision??

Now I am sure someone out there is not agreeing at all…but think for just a minute…Don’t you think that no matter who you are…no matter what kind of life you are living…and no matter how much knowledge you have…as an adult… faced with having to make a decision…you…we all… make the one that is right for us at that moment…the best one possible ???…..So keeping that in mind…I suppose it is possible …that if we are making the very best decisions we can …at the time we are faced with them…..YES…. every decision must be  the right one!!!.

All my life whenever it comes time to make a decision, I make it and forget about it .   Harry S. Truman

Could it be that …a decision is the right one…if we…believe it is the right one?”??…And if we believe it is the right one…if we accept it as the right one…isn’t it exactly that???…So then…if a person is always doubting their decisions..if a person is always thinking they could or should  have made a better one…a different one…if a person is always looking back and wishing…rather than looking ahead and living…aren’t  all of their decisions …the right decisions as well…the only difference is …they haven’t stopped to realize it???…

So it was a hard decision but I know it is the right one Graeme Le Saux

Have you ever thought about how many decisions…one person  is required to make each day???…Ever think  about  how much time  one  person can spend in a day…in…the decision making process???…That has me wondering…are there decisions through out a day …that we spend way too much time on???…Certainly there are those that require time…a bit of research and fact finding prior to a final decision…but…what about those such as … which clothes to wear or which cereal to have for breakfast…or what time to go to bed???…

If our decisions are the right ones…we need not look back…we need not have  regrets…for we know we did our  best.  SGU

Yes…there may come a day when our life will flash before our eyes…would ours be worth watching???

Have you ever had a moment … a moment when something caused your life to flash before you???…a moment when something  caused you to take a serious look at the years that have passed. ..how you have  spent them..something that made you wonder about the years to come and how you will spend them???…If your life flashed before you today…can you say…Yes…it was worth watching or do you think you would want to change the channel ???

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we had the ability to look back…and change the channel if we did not like what flashed before us???

Well…we all know that is not possible…what is past is past…However .. if our life has not been worth watching…or if our life could be a better watch…do we have the capacity to change that???…Can a person make their life…a …more worth while watch??…In the hustle and bustle of our daily routine…can a person make changes  to  their own channel???…Can we work to change  the inevitable “life flashing  before our eyes” so we will be happy with the channel our life has been on???

That got me wondering…Is it possible in looking back…  that what we see flash before our eyes …is in part …reality combined with our  perceived reality???…Is it possible that the life that might flash before us…is a mixture of…people and events and behaviors…that we have come to believe as our life…but may not have actually occurred as we remember???….Can there be memories of our lives…that  have been manufactured by others…or…redesigned by ourselves to suit our needs and attitudes ???

Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.  Albert Einstein

I wonder about this …as there are days I pick up an old journal I have written …and…I read and find to my surprise that…what I wrote about an event or feeling or behavior of a certain day…is very different from what I… now remember it to have been….In some cases it may have been only a few years and still…my memory has …over time… become distorted…So now I wonder about… if my life flashes before me one day…will it be my real life or my life distorted by time and the tricks my memory might have played.

So now I wonder…How  much of my life …that I remember to be my life…really is???…How much is a distortion of it???…When my life flashes before me one day…will I truly be watching my channel or might it be a bad connection somewhere…causing distortion???…

Only in quiet waters do things mirror themselves undistorted.

Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world.

Hans Margolius

Think about it….How quiet are  your waters ???…How distorted are your  perceptions???



You have probably heard the phrase..Seize the day….however…Can you think of a moment of happiness …that took you by surprise???….A  moment of surprise that you can actually say…seized you???

Tonight I had exactly a moment like that…I was surprised…over come….seized by the moment!!!  Our book club meeting was at my home this evening…The Happiness Project was the book we talked about…and in that chat I had mentioned that…something I would love to do is… to fly a kite!…The evening carried on…good wine…great food..and a few hours later…once the evening was just about over… and everyone began  packing up…one friend said she had a little something for me…Hmm…this was strange…and very interesting…why only for me I wondered…what ever could it be???

She ran out to her car….and…a few minutes later she returned to the  house with a bag in hand….She told us said she had done some house cleaning…and…had a few items in her car to bring to the thrift shop…however…she decided  this one item would be best if  given to me…We were all still wondering…what might it be…and then she told us…

A kite….It was a kite…she was giving me a KITE!!!

Now…is that synchronicity…serendipity…coincidence…karma…or what????…

I think we all were in awe of the event for a moment…and  I…I was so thrilled that …without even thinking …I gave her a big hug…and then we all laughed…Yes I was seized by that moment…how could I not have been????…Here we were …talking about happiness…and my evening ended with me surprised and thoroughly taken/seized by an unexpected  moment of happiness!!

So what about you???…any such moments of late??…Have you ever been the person to give  such a moment to someone else???… …Have you been the receiver of such a moment of surprise???

That has me wondering if…Is it possible for each and every one of us ….to make such moments occur…or…are such moments completely out of our hands???…Do we each have the capacity to be able to make happy moments for others???

Once the weather cooperates…you will find me out in a field….flying my newly acquired, gently used, kite!!!

Thanks to (V)…for providing us all with a moment of happiness.

We have all entertained  others  in lots of different ways…which usually involves a bit of effort on  our part…like making a dinner…or…having a party…or…telling a joke…or relating a story….but…entertain by just listening???

Think about it…there are people who like to entertain sometimes…and there are people who enjoy being entertained…sometimes…and we have all met the people who seem to entertain …all the time???…I am not talking about paid entertainers…but rather…family members…or…friends…or acquaintances who talk…talk…talk…Those people who talk all the time and never stop.

I wonder…could it be that they have so much bottled up… that when in the company of others…they just have to share???….Could it be that they dread those moments of silence that might occur if they stop talking???….or…Maybe they enjoy having a constant audience …maybe they get some kind of positive reinforcement from it….Hmmm…one might say that they seem very self absorbed…but…could it be that they have no idea what they are doing?????..If someone were to tell them….you monopolize conversations… you never let anyone else talk…do you think they would be horrified??

Could it be …the only way to entertain such folk …is to listen to them…or…at least seem to listen???…Have you ever spent time with someone like that…only to come home and realize…they never asked you one question???…That although they have told you tons about themselves…they have learned nothing about you…

Many years ago I had a good friend…we used to sit for hours chatting…till one day I actually listened…What I realized is that we were having two very separate conversations ..we were each just waiting for the other to stop talking…to then get our words in…neither of us really ever heard the other… yet to an outsider it would have looked like a normal conversation taking place…It was then I had to say something to her….and I told her what I just realized…we were not having a conversation at all…we were having two!!!…Interesting how after that…our chats totally changed…We had no idea we had gotten into such a habit and it never happened again.

Oh no…what about me???….I don’t think I monopolize conversations…do I???….Although  I will admit …I do like to talk??…Yes..and  I do occasionally interrupt others when talking…but I am working on that…Could it be that listening is the only way to entertain me????…Hmmm…I suppose knowing that to be a possibility…is the first step to improvement.

Have you ever considered ..is your entertainment …others listening to you????

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; however you are the one who gets burned.

– Buddha

Anger…who of us has never been angry??…Is it true that holding on to that anger …can  cause pain and possibly leave scars??…So I got  to wondering about anger and pain….If this is true then…does  that mean… the angrier a person is the more pain they will inflict upon themselves and the worse the scars will be???

When a person looks at anger as a hot coal…it makes one wonder…why would a person ever want to be angry???…Why would a person want to cause themselves pain…pain that they do not …HAVE…to endure???

But …you are now saying to yourself…but how does a person not get angry??…We all get angry at times…right???…And we all have times that someone or something just riles us up…I bet we have all had times when we were holding onto that hot coal of anger …with intentions of tossing it at someone…and before we even could…the coal/anger had already burned us.

Think about it…what if a person was angry for a very long time???…Would that mean that the pain would last for much longer as well??…And if that is so…wouldn’t it make sense to drop the hot coal…the anger…as soon as possible???…Wouldn’t  it be smart to …not even pick up the hot coal to begin with???….Would anyone …knowingly …consider doing such a thing??

So…you have to wonder…why do we allow ourselves to become angry???….Can anything good …actually come out of such emotions…reactions??…I am sure we have all known at least one person….who seems to be  angry ??…people who are carrying hot coals around with them…all the time… I wonder if they have any idea how that is affecting them…Could it be that the longer a person carries around a hot coal…he begins not to even feel it anymore???…I would hate to think that anyone would actually enjoy holding a hot coal…would they????

Now…this all has me wondering about anger and me…am I carrying any hot coals around at the moment???…And if so…How long have I been carrying them around with me???…I  have some serious thinking to do…and probably a few coals that need to be  dropped…I will think about this next time I feel anger building up…and next time I hope I can be smart enough to ….not  even pick up the  that hot coal…Maybe  the picture  at the start of my post will be a good visual reminder.

What about you….are you lugging around any hot coals ??? Coals you might be wanting to drop??

I once read that when you feel anger beginning to build up…just even for a few seconds…mentally…find and go to your happy place…it might just help let the anger disappear…. POOF!!!..It is worth a try.

 

I found this quote and it made me smile…

mostly because…

even in it’s shortness… it says so much.

be kind whenever possible…it is always possible

This simple little statement made me wonder … it sounds so simple…BE KIND…yet in practice…it is not…However…for  us to be kind…it does not cost us anything…it does not hurt us…it doesn’t take much of our time…and….we all know how to do it…so why then… is it so difficult???

I would guess that we can all very easily…think of a time  when someone …was  NOT kind to us…when someone said or did something that hurt…that made us feel bad…or….how about the times when…we have done that to others…when we have not been kind.

Why if being kind… is such an easy thing to do….do people choose NOT TO  BE..?

I would like to believe that …we all want to be kindwe all do our best to be …as kind as we can be…so why are there times we are not??… Could it be that we don’t really think about it?? …Could it be that we don’t realize our unkindness??…Could  it be that we are in such a rush to get on with our lives….that we sometimes…forget about those around us??…Maybe it is that we are just too tired to even consider it some days…being kind.

I think you would agree that. ..people love it when  someone is kind to them…..and that…it sure make us feel good when we are kind to someone… so why then… why wouldn’t we all want to be kinder to each other …more often???…Do we not like feeling good???….Is it that other things and emotions ….get in our way and make being kind … more difficult than it should be?

Sure we all partake in those special little acts of kindness…those good Samaritan acts… But what about our everyday actions??…How kind conscious are we with them???…How kind conscious are we to our kids…our husbands….the people we see everyday??…How kind are we from minute to minute???…Is it possible to be kinder…or not???…If there were a seminar on learning to be kind….how many of us would consider taking part?.

How kind do you want to be???… Think about it.

Be kind whenever possible…it is always possible

isn’t it???




My book Sam’s Weird Afternoon is presently in …

The New Covey Book Cover Award….contest.

Kurt Jones  of  Tate Publishing…was the brilliant illustrator  I worked with ..to develop Sam and the cover of Sam’s Weird Afternoon….. I was so very happy when we finalized what Sam would look like…and the cover came out better than I expected…I think it is very colorful and  eye catching…I hope you do too!

My  hope is that with enough votes from all of you ….my book cover might just be a winner for April !!!

Just click on the link below …go to entry # 14…and vote.

http://thenewcoveycoverawards.blogspot.com/

Voting will take place from April 1- 15th.

Sam…Kurt and I….thank you all in advance for your support and I will let you know what the results are after the 15th.

Thanks to all of you who voted …Sally and I are very excited about this…..Sam

I learned a new word this week…..

I was reading about phobias yesterday and  I found  there are people who are afraid of books…they have  what is called…Bibliophobia.I have heard of many phobias in my life…but this was something new…the fear of books!!!

So what exactly is A phobia?…It  is an irrational, intense and persistent fear of certain situations, activities, things, animals, or people. The main symptom of this disorder is the excessive and unreasonable desire to avoid the feared stimulus.

http://phobias.about.com/od/phobiaslist/a/bibliophobia.htm

I suppose we all have a fear/s of some kind…but would our fears be considered … phobias???….So… of course that got me  to thinking…what fears do I have ?? and are any of them a   phobia???…Is there something that I fear intensely…irrationally…and persistantlyl???…Hmmm

Well…I do fear loosing my calendar…my life line that tells me  where  I have to be when….and then there are my glasses…however…that is not really a problem cause…. I always have contact lenses if they are lost…and how about my keys….that has scared me once or twice……

OH..OH…I’ve got it!!!…candles and fire …I love them outside ...but when they are burning inside…especially when my husband is away…I get a bit worried about fire…I have even been known  to blow out a candle or two at a friend’s home …usually in their bathroom as it bothered me a bit…Also…I   have a good supply of battery operated flames to put in containers….However…I will  admit…I do love the real thing sometimes …and I have just begun lighting up a candle at suppertime once in a while…and actually enjoying it.

So…is it a phobia???…I don’t think so…it is not a real intense fear…In fact…I actually never thought about it much….until I began volunteering at the local fire department …I was their Education Officer for three years…so… I wouldn’t call it a phobia…just a healthy respect and knowledge of  fire.

But  just imagine ….a fear of books…think of all the problems such a phobia could cause a person…imagine all the information and interesting stories that person would miss in their life…I suppose a library would not be a favorite place of theirs…and what about friends…would they only visit homes  of friends …that did not display books???…I suppose bibliophobia could be very debilitating  in ones daily life.

 

I just had a thought…I wonder if a Kindle or an E Book would cause a person with bibliophobia the same problems

…or not??

Ok now…time to relax …

 

I continue to read on in my book…the book chosen by my reading group …The Chicks in the Sticks….to discuss at our next get book club get together…The Happiness Project…and although a number of the “chicks” did not find it interesting or compelling at all, I did. Have you ever started reading a book… one that seemed to appear in your life…just at the right time??…Have you ever thought about that book…and wondered if you had begun reading it 6 months ago…. you would not have enjoyed it as much??…Well for me this book appeared at just the right time in my life…at least that is how it seems to me.

So you may be thinking …why a book about happiness???……Is she is unhappy??…I don’t think so…I am generally a happy person…so…I can’t exactly explain it… however… since I began reading it…I can truly say…I am a happier person …so my thinking is…why try to understand it?.

So how happy can one person be?…If like  honest Abe says...you are as happy as you make up your mind to be... does that mean we never have to be unhappy if we don’t want to be??… I suppose if we had more control over our mind and how we think from moment to moment…maybe that is true…However…I don’t know about you but…it is those darned old emotions that seem to get in the way…they seem to have a mind of their own some days…a mind that seems separate from the one I have control over…making it difficult to keep that happiness quotient up at certain moments.

From what I have now read…it is believed that happiness is not the opposite of sadness…that they are two very different emotions…So ..Does that mean …they can both exist together…side by side???…Does that mean a person can be happy and sad at the same time???…I got to thinking about that and what came to mind was my mom’s death…and yes…I think that is true…I was so sad that she had passed away…yet I was so very happy that she did not have to deal with any more treatments…so…yes…I do believe …happy and sad can sit at the same table.

So would that mean ..

in the absence of happiness…a person is not really sad…but rather…less happy…and in the absence of sadness…a person is not necessarily happy…but rather…just not sad…

Something to think about….

When I first read this quote……it reminded me of the old song….Love the one you’re with….then…without warning… all of a sudden the quote….necessity is the mother of invention…popped into my my head.

Do what you can …with what you have... .has long been my mantra…even my husband will attest to that…It drives him crazy when he sees me doing just that!!! ..Who needs to go find the  jar opener when you have a spoon right in front of you?…or… How about the  lowly little butter knife… that can be easily transformed into a screw driver when required…I remember how my mom would transform a simple white tissue and a hair pin…into a hat for me to wear in church… on days that I forgot my Sunday bonnet…

For centuries …mankind has been doing what they can with what they have …If you don’t own a jar opener …and you need to get it opened…you will find a way….you will figure it out…Isn’t that kind of thinking….that  separates us from the other species???

I thought about this as I watched the news today…as I looked at the footage of the thousands of Japanese who have lost their homes…and everything they owned…people who are most likely…finding out how inventive they really can be….at a time when they have no choice but …to do what they can…with what they have…where they now are.

I think back to the years when I didn’t own a screw driver…and then I think about now…Today …I have access to a multitude of them…red, yellow and black handled…straight,phillips and square headed ones…Is my life better or is it just different?…All I can say is that…now…I spend more time in trying to find…the correct  screwdriver for the job…I will admit that my butter knives are in much better shape these days… and that screw heads no longer get chewed up…which seems to make my husband much happier.

It seems the less a person owns…the more creative they must be…with what they have...out of necessity most likely…So that makes me wonder about people who have lots?…The people with the jar openers and the multiple head screw drivers??…How creative do they have to be?…I wonder about me…am I less creative now…or just ….creative in different ways?..hmmm…something to ponder???

So yes… I will continue to….do what I can with what I have...The only difference is that…these days…I happen to …have more .

And now….here are a few pics of … doing what you can, with what you have..where you are…..

Sometimes you just have to do…what you have to do !!!

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