The true test of character is not how much we know how to do,but how we behave when we don’t know what to do.
John Holt

Character…let’s first be clear on what character …in this sense …really is….The combination of qualities or features that distinguishes one person, group, or thing from another…..A distinguishing feature or attribute, as of an individual, group, or category. …Moral or ethical strength….A description of a person’s attributes, traits, or abilities reputation.

How much do you … really…know how to do…and how  much do you not???…When  moments occur…the moments when you don’t know what to do…the moments that are difficult/new/stressful/emotional….how do you behave???…When all that knowledge and ability you have learned…is of no help …how do you handle yourself ???….Are these the moments we are given..the small opportunities that appear when we can...rise to the occasion…to step up to the plate…to do the right thing…and is it at those moments that…. we  show our  true character???…Do you know how much  character/moral and ethical strength you display????..

There are always moments in everyone’s life when…we find ourselves in “new territory”…in a place we have never been before…and although we may have years of experience and oodles of wisdom…we find ourselves lost!!…Sometimes we muddle through…other  times… we discover something new in ourselves…or…at still other times….we find that  we fail miserably….How about the times when you can’t think of the right thing to say at that moment…but…realizing after the fact…what you should have said????…How often have you fumbled??

Take for example …….pregnancy…death…sickness…divorce…of  someone we know…How do we handle those MOMENTS???…What do we do and say when we next see that person????…and…do we go and see them…or do our best to avoid it all????….I remember after being diagnosed with Breast Cancer…I was very fortunate ….to have the opportunity to observe…how family/friends/acquaintances…and even strangers… handled the news and how they behaved …It all made  me wonder …what have I done to others in the past…how have I behaved???…have I risen to the occasions???…or…Have I failed miserably …in their eyes???…What kind of character have I displayed in my life???

Life is quite interesting in that…we remember how others have behaved toward us…at those difficult moments…but…do we have any idea of how we behaved toward others???…Will we ever know what effect our behavior has had on others????….What kind of character have we displayed through the years???…

I wonder…if  we had the ability to get feedback …at times  when… we don’t know what to do…how would we fare???…How about you…how would you fare???….Maybe we do get feedback….but just choose not to see it….Could it be that ‘those moments” are so very difficult…very emotional…very stressful…that we are not able to read the other person…and the  feedback they are giving ….the feedback that although we don’t hear them say it in words…if we look…we can see it in their eyes??

Do you think it is true…. that a person’s heart is in the right place…most of the time…and…that everyone’s aim it to develop a strong …good character???…Is it possible that when a person appears to have a flaw in their character…they just …Don’t know what to do???…and fumbling…they truly do the very best that they know how…at that moment in time???

So…what do you do when you don’t know what to do???

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