Happy Fathers Day to all the Dads out there.

  

Today got me thinking about Dads…mostly… my Dad…who passed away some years ago….and then, memories started coming back to me in waves….memories of when I was very young…when I was a teen…and then an adult and parent myself. 

When you were younger and living at home…did you…like me …did you vow…I will never be like my DAD!!!????…However , if you became a parent like me…did you not…like me…become your DAD  in some ways???  And like me…did you find that it wasn’t as terrible as you thought it would be ????? 

..I remember hearing my Dad saying things like…. 

“Were you raised in a barn?  Close the door!”…”Don’t worry … it’s only blood.”…”Now you listen to me, Kiddo!”…”Because I’m your father!!”…”A little dirt never hurt anyone … just wipe it off.”…”Who ever said life was supposed to be fair?”…”Hey” is for horses.”…”This will hurt me a lot more than it will hurt you.”…”Turn off those lights!  Do think I’m made out of money?”…As long as you live under my roof … you’ll live by my rules.”…”I’ll tell you why … Because I said so!  That’s why!”…”If I’ve told you once … I’ve told you a thousand times.”…”Stop crying or I’ll give you a reason to cry!”….”You have it so easy … when I was your age… I had to walk to school in 10 feet of snowup hill both ways.”…”What part of “NO” don’t you understand?”….  

Then some of us became a parent and….and…to our  surprise…..out of our  mouths came many  of  those exact  same words….without even a thought!!!…I got to thinking…maybe …this is parent lingo….not just MY parent’s lingo. …rather…all parent’s lingo. And maybe….could it be …that we all have a …PARENT LINGO FILE…in our brains….a special file that  remains closed until the day a baby appears and…for some reason…our PARENT LINGO FILE …flies opens wide.???….and the PARENT LINGO FILE takes over??? 

My Dad….He went from being my hero, my protector, my knight in shining armour. when I was young…to an over authoritative  dad during my teens…to a senior citizen…and lastly to a little old man who was confused ,vulnerable and in need of protection himself… Life is interesting the way it carries us along ….and if we live long enough…we might end up almost exactly where we started…comfused…vulnerable…..and yes…possibly..even in diapers….That got me wondering …. can a person embrace each of life’s phases as they arrive???…If we pay more attention to the generation ahead of us…can we learn by watching them and how they deal with the challenges of their lives???….Can it prepare us for what is to come and enable us to better embrace  life’s next phase???..Can we teach ourselves how to embrace each phase????

Ok, OK…. before I get too carried away…I know…I tend to do that at times….I don’t want to forget that  today is DAD’S DAY!!!  Let us all celebrate the man who helped to make us what we are today….the man who helped to make our children…now adults…. who they have grown to be …..and the men  whose… PARENT LINGO FILE…. is presently open and active , who are influencing their children…my generation’s grandchildren…..to be who they will become in the years ahead. 

HAPPY FATHERS DAY TO ALL OF YOU DADS OUT THERE

Three cheers for DAD..hip hip hooray, hip hip hooray, hip hip hooray!.

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And now….Here is the first in my new collection of ….ODD COUPLES…… 

A baby hippo and a turtle...a very odd couple for sure.

 

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